Struggling to conceive baby number 2. Our daughter will be 4 at end of October. No fertility issues… anyone else have this situation or been in this situation?

[Penguinsforever1]

We have no fertility issues. Although my partner did get type 1 diabetes at 35 years old age but sperm health is perfect.
Just hope it happens soon. I think maybe my stressing is really affecting things.

How long have you been trying for OP?

How long have you been trying? It might be worth going to get checked by the gp as there can be such a thing as secondary infertility. My friend had it but did eventually conceive a second (she was taking medication to help) and a third.

Yes I did! I enrolled my dd in private school, got a full time job, was looking to move house and then bam. 😂

I had my ds one month after my dd turned 5

As pp has asked, how long have you been trying?

You mention no fertility issues, have you been checked at the doctors, recently/after your dd? Things like thyroid can go haywire after having a baby.

Hi OP, not sure how old you are or how long you have been TTC but I got my BFP about 2 days after our daughters 4th birthday.
I got pregnant very quickly with our daughter (2nd cycle) but then we haven't used anything for the last 4 years and said we'd just 'see what happened'. Not a sniff of a BFP at all in those 4 years and no known fertility issues (although we never sought any medical advice or went for tests or anything).
Now, at 41, I'm 9 weeks pregnant and hoping it sticks!

@Penguinsforever1 sort of similar situation over here. We try our hardest every month and its so dissapointing and frustrating.
Surrounded by pregnancy announcements whilst we're getting older, and the age gap between 1st child and wanted 2nd is getting bigger.
No solutions sorry but good luck to you, sending love and babydust!

@sel2223 congratulations, thanks for sharing your story. I wish you all the best and have a great pregnancy!! Your daughter will be a big sister very exciting.❤️

@FinallyPregnant2022 same to you wish you all the best hopefully it will be our year.

I'm in this situation, first DD turning 4 in beginning of October. We started trying for a second when she was about 1y3months when my period returned but I wasn't on birth control before either. So it's been almost three years, not a sniff of a BFP so far. We did some testing and scans after a year in, no particular cause was found. Husband has Crohns disease, but it's under control. We are on our second round of IVF, first produced one embryo which failed to implant. Secondary infertility is not so rare, there's plenty of us in the infertility subforum. I guess it is maybe relevant that our first one took a little long to conceive as well, but it was within the normal timeframe. I'm 32.

Yes, I had this issue. I'm now 5 weeks pregnant after 18 months of trying and not even a whiff of any pregnancy over that time. Daughter will also be four in October. We had our first IVF appointment and were ready to go and then found out I was pregnant. I honestly don't know what changed and I think it just took time. I'm 39. I had done the It Starts With an Egg diet for over a year and was miserable. I gave myself July to enjoy myself and ended up getting pregnant after that-- probably coincidental. I took ALL the supplements for over a year but changed them around 3 months ago. This includes adding Coq10 and all the others recommended at the back of It Starts With an Egg, plus NMN (there are a few threads on it). I was convinced there was something physically wrong with my uterus but it's not been the case. I can't help but think it was stress (I work very long hours and have a full on DS), plus the stress of trying and the lose of hope. I also started antidepressants in as it was becoming too much. Perhaps that chilled me out?! No idea.

Oh -- and we had more sex. Trying was becoming so tiring that we had been waiting for the LH surge and then going for it. My third fertility doctor said if you wait for the surge it's too late. (That wasn't the case for our first kid) but we took the advice and we made a concerted effort to have sex every two days from day 8 so the sperm would be waiting for the egg. That might have played a role.

OP, have you been trying for 12 months? If not, then it's most likely taking a regular amount of time for you to conceive. You haven't answered this question every time a poster has asked, which makes me think you've been ttc for less than a year, you know it's normal to take a year and are just feeling impatient.

Please be quiet thank you.

Yes!
It took 4 cycles to conceive DS1
Started TTC when he was about 18 months old… took 10 months for first BFP, which was ectopic, 4 months to next BFP which was a miscarriage and 4 months to next BFP which was DS2. 4y3m between them in the end and no fertility issues. Just bad luck (which turned to good luck as in the end I loved the age gap and obvs so happy to have DS2 and not another baby).

How long are you in your TCC journey? It can often take a few months and as others have said, it can be longer. So it really depends what stage you are at, if you have only just started trying then I wouldn't be worrying

@Penguinsforever1 point proven 👍. Good luck in your journey.

Similar, we are moving into month 5 but after falling pregnant on the first try with my son I am starting to wonder if there is an issue.

I really worried stress plays apart of it for me, but unsure what to do about that.

I think I am going to follow the sperm meets egg plan next month/moving forward and see if it helps.

I might give it until 6 months and then pay for the private female/sperm analysis tests. I don’t want to leave it until a year and then find out there is an issue. Have you had private testing?