It’s not going to happen for me is it?

[Summertimesadnessie]

I’m 35 dh is 36

2 dcs. Incredibly blessed and lucky to have them.

dc1 conceived at 28 (nearly 29) after 8 months of trying
Dc2 caught the first egg (didnt ovulate until 18months pp)

i was so stressed with my first due to dh having wonky sperm, mainly morphology. He’s taking proxeed plus.

now I’m pretty sure I’m out on my 3rd month ttc. And I’m terrified it won’t happen again. My follicular stage is also long, I didn’t ovulate this month til cd 25!

ive heard over 35 it’s considered infertility if you don’t conceive at 6 months. Are we half way there? We both deceided if it doesn’t happen naturally then we won’t do any Ivf or anything, acupuncture is the furthest we’ll do. Why do I feel like it won’t happen. Each month sucks.

Is that true about the 6 month thing? I hope not lol, I’ve been trying since Nov last year! I’m hoping this month is it. I hope it happens for us both, I feel as women we want it so bad we get so stressed and worked up, I’m currently due to ovulate any day but did a pregnancy test and can see a v v v v faint line! I feel like things are just playing tricks on me because that can’t be possible 😂 but I can still see it, I’m doing ovulation tests to I’m currently cycle day 17. There are things you can take to ovulate earlier I believe and to help with it xx

the nhs website says if you’re over 35 and not conceived see the dr where women under 35 it’s a year. I don’t know if it means infertility though. Just what I’ve been told.

if you see a line babe, it’s probably real. I’ll keep everything crossed for you!

what can you take to help you ovulate earlier? I’ve not heard this. I got put on metformin to try and help regulate my cycle because it worked for people with pcos not sure if it works but I do tend to get a period every month now

Jesus 😫 I’m 36 and the drs literally won’t do anything to help me as I have previous children and said they won’t do anything till it’s been 18 months anyway, so I was just like oh ok ha thanks for your help. I’m just going to keep positive, I’ve read a lot today on vitamins etc but not sure if that’s for luteal phase, and ovulation, I keep thinking I have a short luteal phase and that’s why I’m wondering if I’m not getting pregnant x

Also something called clomid?

Over 6 months trying at 35 doesn’t mean automatic infertility. They just encourage you to go earlier for testing because you’re older, so it gets you into the system a bit quicker if you do turn out to need any fertility interventions.

They expect most people to end up conceiving naturally despite that as it’s still completely normal for it to take a year (or more) to conceive at that age. 3 months trying is not very long, whether you are 21 or 41. In fact it’s normal for it to take longer as you get older because of egg quality but it doesn’t mean it won’t happen.

Oh clomid can be quite nasty, it basically forces ovulation and I think you can only use it for so long and under medical supervision you need it prescribed.

i had it prescribed with my first

i think nhs support if you’ve got previous kids is 0 anyway, but everywhere I’ve seen says if you’re over 35 see a dr after 6 months

oh really I had no idea I was looking into it but I might try be a bit more patient, hope you get some good news soon 🤍

Absolutely no inherent reason it won't happen for you again. 35 may seem old to you but in reality you still have several years to play with. As above, six months without conceiving does not mean infertility! Just entitles you to faster investigation (usually if you haven't already had a child).

Ah that’s a relief, the messages must have got mixed somewhere along the line.

you just hear over 35 advanced maternal age etc, and with dh having variable sperm. We were told we’d need icsi to even conceive before, it’s just instilled fear

@Summertimesadnessie the vast majority of women aged 35 are going to be pregnant within a year of trying. Ditto 36 and 37. There isn't a sudden cut off.

Good luck with the sperm quality improvements!

Thank you! He’s not had his swimmers evaluated in over 5 years and we’ve fallen pregnant twice since then.

ive just got my heart set on baby 3 xx

I'm 39...I had my toddler at 35, my 4 month old this year at 38 and I'm now 39 and I'm 4 weeks pregnant. I cannot recommend enough what helped me.....

Vitamin B6
Vitamin D high dose
Folic acid
And baby aspirin. (75mg)

I also have severe endometriosis. Good luck to you 🤞

I didn't realise they recommended seeing a doctor after 6 months at 35 plus!

I didn't start trying for my first until I was 35, took 7 months. Second we started trying when I was 38 and it took just over a year. Chemical pregnancy, then pregnant again the very next month (she is now 3!)

So maybe it can just take a while when you're a little older. But id say chances are good if you have had 2 already.

Did you take the aspirin whilst ttc? That’s interesting I took aspirin with my second from 10 weeks to 36 as my first was small. I didn’t know it can help conception, but I took 150mg

I take a pregnancy multi vit with vit b and d and folic acid. Is that sufficient?

I hope it happens for you soon. I'm 33, but went to my GP after over three years with no luck, I'd had multiple gyny surgeries privately so new the issue in the main, but thought a second opinion and actual fertility tests can't hurt. As all my surgery had been medical rather than fertility as such. Anyway she fobbed me straight off and said I had a child already so they won't do anything... Good news is I'm now finally pregnant

I take 75mg whilst ttc and then 150mg from 12 weeks, the aspirin helps with implantation.

I'm not sure if it's sufficient I just prefer to take them separately I never got on with the mixed conception tablets.

So I checked the tabs and b6 is at 100% of rda and vit d is 200% rda.

very interesting on the aspirin. I just googled and some studies back it up. I’ll head to the shops and when the next cycle starts or is it worth taking now 9dpo?

The thing is it's not going to harm you either so it's worth trying if it ends up working! Id start straight way tbh z

You have children together so that's a positive that you can create a child successfully .
sometimes things just take time But it's definitely possible over 35.
We struggled for many years ( 18) and finally managed to get pregnant naturally when I was 36. Unfortunately I miscarried. I just had my first baby , he's 6weeks and I'm now 38. We did end up going through ivf tho as I've got pcos and he's got morphology issues but it's definitely achievable

6 months doesn’t mean infertility. Suggesting so is pretty unhelpful to those who’ve taken years to conceive. It took us 6 months both times, first pregnancy ended in late miscarriage. Doubt GP would refer you for tests given you have kids. And you can’t let TTC another child affect your existing family; it’s not fair.

It took me 2 years to conceive Dc 2.

Who says it is affecting my existing family? Odd statement to make.

i didn’t say ttc over 6 months (over 35 ) means you’re infertile I said that was what I’ve been told- there’s a difference. But someone explained upthread that it’s just means you may be entitled to some support earlier (if no kids). Think you’re getting unnecessarily triggered. I even said in my OP my first took 8 months and we were told we’d never conceive and would need Icsi

Never mind that post! Took me 3.5 years to conceive our first. Long story short, the various tests showed that I had one partially and one fully blocked tube, and the dye in one of the processes unblocked them and I got pregnant literally within days. I was 33. Got pregnant with my 2nd at 35 second month ttc. Next time I was 37. It took 7 months, but I had a miscarriage. 3 months next time, aged 38, and another miscarriage.

Got pregnant with 3rd child first month TTC after 2nd mc, and I was a couple of months short of 40. I was on 75mg asprin and progesterone (prescribed), plus I'd started to take agnus castus. My obs was willing to do an HSG to open up my tubes to make it easier to get pregnant, but he didn't need to. It's not true that you won't get support to conceive a 3rd child. Wish you all the luck in the world x