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Help. 14dpo lines not dark enough. Can't face another loss

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Ella31 · 16/08/2024 11:19

Hi all, please bear with me as I'm horribly anxious and worried. I've posted many times before in the past 9 months when I lost my twin boys at 29 weeks. One baby was stillborn and his brother died 4 days later in my arms.

I've since found out I'm pregnant again and although I'm delighted, I'm riddled with anxiety. I'm 14dpo , so 4 weeks 3 days. I tested positive at 9dpo. But my tests haven't gotten any stronger since 12dpo two days ago. Plus I'm still get 1-2 on the weeks indicator. I've attached a test from this morning. It looked the same two days ago. I'm getting bloods done today but I'm fairly certain it's not good news. I don't know how much more heartache I can take. Thanks for reading. I know I'm horribly anxious but I can't shake it.

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Ella31 · 16/08/2024 11:21

Here's the test

Help. 14dpo lines not dark enough. Can't face another loss
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Mrsttcno1 · 16/08/2024 11:22

Hi OP, I remember seeing your other posts, I’m so sorry you’re struggling. I would honestly say that test looks absolutely fine though for 14dpo. Also remember pregnancy tests are not built to measure progression, they have 2 answers, yes and no. That is a positive test, you are pregnant until told otherwise. Congratulations x

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Ella31 · 16/08/2024 11:49

Mrsttcno1 · 16/08/2024 11:22

Hi OP, I remember seeing your other posts, I’m so sorry you’re struggling. I would honestly say that test looks absolutely fine though for 14dpo. Also remember pregnancy tests are not built to measure progression, they have 2 answers, yes and no. That is a positive test, you are pregnant until told otherwise. Congratulations x

Thank you so much for your kind words. I just thought it would be stronger 2 days later. I'm really taken back by my worry, I thought I'd be so happy.

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Peonies12 · 16/08/2024 11:52

I'm sorry you're struggling I can't imagine what you've been through. But honestly, as PP said, tests are yes/no. The line progression is not an indication of current or future outcome. Can just be based on the dilution of your urine, especially that early. I'd stop testing, wait another week and take a Clearblue digital test. The bloods will also be far more accurate.

narwhalsarereal · 16/08/2024 11:55

@Ella31 I was going to come on the other post and ask how you were doing.

I'm keeping my fingers crossed that everything goes well for you

sel2223 · 16/08/2024 11:56

Hi OP, I'm fairly new to the forum so not familiar with your heartbreaking story. I'm so sorry for your losses.

In your position I would definitely not be testing so early. I know you are anxiously wanting it to happen but a chemical for example would cause you more heartache and it's avoidable, you need never know about it (in not saying for one minute that's what has happened here, just a general thought). I know it's easier said than done but it would be so much kinder to yourself to wait until you've missed a period.

Anyway, that's by the by as this test is positive. I'd wait until you miss your period now then test again and hopefully you will see a stronger line. Good luck.

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Ella31 · 16/08/2024 12:02

sel2223 · 16/08/2024 11:56

Hi OP, I'm fairly new to the forum so not familiar with your heartbreaking story. I'm so sorry for your losses.

In your position I would definitely not be testing so early. I know you are anxiously wanting it to happen but a chemical for example would cause you more heartache and it's avoidable, you need never know about it (in not saying for one minute that's what has happened here, just a general thought). I know it's easier said than done but it would be so much kinder to yourself to wait until you've missed a period.

Anyway, that's by the by as this test is positive. I'd wait until you miss your period now then test again and hopefully you will see a stronger line. Good luck.

I have missed my period as I've only a 10 day luteal phase so period was due on 11dpo

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Ella31 · 16/08/2024 12:30

narwhalsarereal · 16/08/2024 11:55

@Ella31 I was going to come on the other post and ask how you were doing.

I'm keeping my fingers crossed that everything goes well for you

Thanks @narwhalsarereal you are so good. I'm so worried tbh. I hate that something so positive is making me feel this way. Feel very silly

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StressStress · 16/08/2024 12:39

Hello !
Our first and only baby was stillborn at 22 weeks, so I imagine how you feel.
We are TTC again, I pray to get pregnant again one day…
When is your appointment? I think that in this situation you should have a consultation with a health professional rather than worrying at home. Urine tests give less information than ultrasound, possibly blood tests and, above all, the experience of a professional.
I support you 100% and hope everything goes well.
Signed someone who understands you...
Courage <3

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Ella31 · 16/08/2024 12:46

StressStress · 16/08/2024 12:39

Hello !
Our first and only baby was stillborn at 22 weeks, so I imagine how you feel.
We are TTC again, I pray to get pregnant again one day…
When is your appointment? I think that in this situation you should have a consultation with a health professional rather than worrying at home. Urine tests give less information than ultrasound, possibly blood tests and, above all, the experience of a professional.
I support you 100% and hope everything goes well.
Signed someone who understands you...
Courage <3

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Thank you and I'm so sorry for your loss. There's nothing worse. My little angel twins help me through it but between 2 miscarriages, a still birth and a four day neonatal death. I can't bear to lose baby number 5. I'm really hoping this baby will pull through. My first scan is September 10th, blood test is today

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StressStress · 16/08/2024 12:59

Perinatal bereavement is one of the worst things in the world, but it has become part of our lives.
If you hadn't gone through all that trouble in your history, you'd probably be a lot less anxious.
You're not responsible for anything, whatever the outcome.
I wish you all the best.
A little prayer for you and this pregnancy.

YouveGotAFastCar · 16/08/2024 13:01

I’m so sorry for your loss.

i think those lines look good for 14dpo, similar to mine with my 2.5 year old and the baby I’m 5+4 with x

narwhalsarereal · 16/08/2024 15:52

@Ella31 never say you are sorry for being worried or feel silly.

I haven't had a BFP yet but I can only imagine the anxiety over having no control over what happens and then when you've had an experience like yours, it must be 1000% harder

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Ella31 · 16/08/2024 16:48

So I got my first hcg blood back. 12dpo I was 77, second blood done today at 14dpo. My concern now is for my hcg to double from Wednesday to today it would 77 plus 77 which 153. The 2-3 weeks indicator requires 153 to be 2-3 and it was only 1-2 today for me which tells me my bloods obviously didn't double sigh😪

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StressStress · 16/08/2024 17:03

I didn't have an HCG blood test at any time during my pregnancy! A positive urine test and an ultrasound scan were enough to confirm that there was a pregnancy and that it was progressing. Trying to find clues and interpret them won't change anything anyway, what has to happen will happen, whether it's a good outcome or a bad one. I wish you all the best for this pregnancy, nothing is black and white. Even if with your experience you probably see everything in black... XX

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