8DPO and struggling to stay sane!!! Anyone else?

[han0707]

Hi guys,

This is my first thread. I’ve been reading and reading so many discussions on here and I wanted to join as honestly I thought I was alone in how crazy this is driving me but it appears not 😂
I’m currently 8DPO (or 10) as my temps were a bit skewed a couple of days annoyingly!

ANYWAY!! I’m going crazy. This is only our second month TTC and I can’t believe how it’s making me feel. I’ve never paid so much attention to what my body is doing and I’m second guessing everything. I’m so so sure it’s not our time this month but I still have a tiny glimmer of maybe. I’m so scared each morning to see my temp go down. It went down for two days and has gone back up today so I’m scared to look again tomorrow!! I’m due on my period in 2-3 days and normally I would have super sore boobs by now but I don’t. Again, I’m scared I’m going to wake up with sore boobs tomorrow but I’ve also read that sore boobs are a common symptom of early pregnancy so maybe it’s a bad thing I don’t have them?? I also had cramps like days 5-7 which is unusual as I normally only get them the day before my period is due but am I just imagining them??? I know no one can say cause everyone is different but I just needed to have a little brain dump.
Anyway you can see where my brains at. I’m hoping there’s someone out there who can help me get through the next few days without boring my partner.
Sorry for the long chat 🙈

I hear ya sister. It’s actually torture. I’m due in on Sunday and this is my third month trying (we lost a baby at 16 weeks in May) so the desperation is killing me. I feel all consumed by it and just sit and stare at my calendar and bbt chart 😂😂😂 I have lost hope this cycle. I have zero symptoms and any I do have are not enough to make me question it. I was so postive I was pregnant last month and wasn’t. I even had a nose bleed which I’ve only ever had in my last pregnancy ?! Literal torture.

i ended up testing everyday again. So annoyed with myself. Two more days to get through

Hi @CSSL7 👋

im so sorry to hear about your loss, that’s heartbreaking 🤍🤍

I think I’m due on on Sunday but my app thinks Tuesday but I very rarely have 28 day cycles. I’m literally the exact same as you!! I keep opening my apps like expecting a change or a sign and it’s crazy.
I really don’t think I am either but until it comes then there’s still a tiny chance of hope but I’m led here now and I’ve got cramps which feel like my pre period cramps so that sucks now 😭
this is our last month of trying for a few as we get married in June next year and I don’t want to be heavily pregnant at the wedding so we said we would start trying again December/Jan time so I feel like that frustrates me.

two more days!! Cmon we can do it. You get ready for your period to come don’t you so you can dwell in it for a day or so and then have a break from being in this obsessive mindset for a week or two again! I just never knew mentally it would be this hard.

hoping for you still… you never know 🤞🏽

@CSSL7 " just sit and stare at my calendar and bbt chart" hahaha I'm glad it's not just me!! Also I'm so sorry for your awful loss.

I am 7DPO today and have already tested three times. I, of course, knew they'd be negative. But I just could not stop myself! It does sort of quell the urge. I feel like from 8DPO there is a realistic chance of a v faint line so I am looking forward to tomorrow because I will start testing with a bit of hope.

I really turn into a crazy person during the TWW but it is exciting too I suppose!

Hi @imy

Glad we’re not the only ones staring at our apps 😂
I took a clear blue digi today which is meant to be from 5 days before your missed period and it was a negative ☹️ has a big cry, I’m definitely our for the month so now will wait til November to try again! I didn’t know how hard or would be. Only realised how much I wanted it after getting the not pregnant text.

sending you lots of baby vibes!! Have you had any symptoms? How long have you been TTC?

Hi @han0707 , I'm so sorry to hear that. November must feel like a really long time away, but we are almost in September now so I'm sure it'll come around quicker than you think. It's SO exciting that you're getting married in June so I hope that can be a little distraction for you xx

I tested today, 8DPO, and it was completely negative. It's hard not to feel like I'm out but I've looked at line progression photos online and been encouraged by the fact that lots of people don't even get a shadow until 9DPO.

This is cycle 3 of trying for our 2nd baby. We conceived our first baby on our first cycle trying so this is new territory for us. I also found out at 8/9DPO (I can't remember which) and had an obvious line so that fuels my feelings about testing early/feeling out so early. But obviously it could be different this time. Will try again in the morning and see.

Hey @imy

yeah I’ll just try get stuck into wedding prep for the next few months and time does go so quick and we’re so busy so no doubt it’ll fly round but it does suck putting it on hold again.

got my fingers crossed for you!! Yep definitely not a no yet so see how you go, let me know ☺️

I was negative last month!! Booo. Back on the horse this month. But I have a smear test booked for tomorrow but we should technically have sex for the first time tonight (my clear blue fertility monitor said I was high today) so now I don’t know whether to cancel my smear and have sex tonight or whether skipping sex tonight will be ok. I’m not at my peak and probably got days left before I reach peak. So confused lol

@CSSL7 hey 👋

ah I’m sorry you were negative to!! But this might be the month, who knows!
I don’t know what to suggest, I mean smears are important aren’t they and if you think it’s your first fertile day then I’d probably skip today and start tomorrow cause 5 days before isn’t as likely but I guess it’s what you wanna do!!!
were waiting until November now to start trying again due to our wedding next year, I don’t wanna be just about to pop in case it happened quick for us but it’s gonna be a struggle missing the next few cycles… luckily I’m away with the girls over the weekend which is when I’m ovulating so that’ll make it easier haha!

really hope this is the cycle for you 🤞🏽

@CSSL7 - also I decided I’m not temping once I know I’ve ovulated from now on because I need to try and not obsess as much so it’s one less thing for me to obsess over!!

I just posted and realised you had started a thread already! I am 8dpo and have a BFN today - I don't why I do it to myself. I am symptom checking left right and centre which isn't helping.

I had a very faint like 9dpo with my son - so hopeful for tomorrow / day after!

I decided not to baby dance last night and do my smear. So that’s ticked off and I feel happy with my decision!

I wish I could stop temping but now I’ve done one month I want as much data as possible just out of interest. I am actually enjoying learning so much about myself.

my nurse today though did say you’ll get pregnant when you stop trying. 🙄 so annoying lol like I am never going to not try?

we have our wedding June 2026 so we only have two weeks before we would change the wedding date (luckily we are eloping with nothing booked so not a big deal really)

@Ldougal92 hi! It’s so hard not to isn’t it!!
ill have my fingers crossed for you for the next few days! I never thought it would be so hard mentally haha!!

@CSSL7 ah yay I think that’s a good decision! Health is wealth after all.
I know I’m the same I want all the data because I find it so so interesting but I don’t think mentally I can cope like it just consumes me so I’ve told my partner to take it off me next time 😂
haaaa I know! Like we know when we ovulate so to just not try is never going to happen is it.

ah that’s great news, you can keep going then as much as you want!! I decided at an awkward time I was ready for a baby. Ours is very small, only 35 but I have some friends flying over from aus so I didn’t want to have to change it so three cycles off for us and then we’ll get back to it but saying that my ovulation is coming up soon and I am very prone to changing my mind!!

How are you all this morning - of course I took a test this morning and BFN - trying not to get ahead of myself as it is still super early! but always hard to remain positive!

@Ldougal92 ah I’m sorry to hear that! You never know! It’s hard isn’t it.
no trying for us now until November earliest so I’m not sure how I feel about the break yet.
It’s like our 5 days before at the moment as well so to use protection tonight will suck!!