How did you decided if you wanted another baby ?

[LizzeyBenett]

Just curious more than anything , I'm 37 and TTC for 2 years and now have an almost 8 week old who is genuinely everything I prayed for. I always thought I would have two children more so because I'm an only child and don't want to do that to my child as I find it's getting tougher as I get older my childhood was great ! I'm not getting any younger her but having said that I'm in no rush to try again and not sure I want a second one now, pregnancy wasn't this amazing thing and I ended up with a few complications and being induced not to mention the financial side of having two kids in crèche. But I suppose it all boils down to I just don't know if I want a second d baby I'm aware it's early days and my time could completely change a year down the line .

My two are 15 months apart and it was the best thing I have done.
They are 3 and 5 now and play together so much.

I have 3. Theres a 6 year gap then a 4 year gap. I don't think my brain or body would have coped with smaller gaps. My serious want was for the 3rd. I already had one of each and cant explain it at all. I just felt the need was really big. So we did. No regrets. She's 17 tomorrow.

Tbh I / we decided to have a baby been married 7 years I was 29 and he really wanted a baby and I was easily convinced. I loved my baby loved being a mum, and then my mum passed away, I forgot to take the on pill in all the upset and son 2 came along. Didn’t want anymore 2 was enough put I fell again, my dad said my mum was very productive and so am I 🙄. I lost that baby at 29 weeks I was so upset and 6 months later DH suggested coming off the pill and seeing what happens, well it did of course - twins. I was 36 and thought it would be difficult to conceive but no. At 38 I had an implant, I really didn’t want any more but god thought differently, and number 5 came along. I love her to bits, but hard work I felt to old but we managed.

so 5 children but not all planned

I'm in a similar boat to you really. Also 37 and considering a second baby. My wee girl is 14mo and I would love a second, very aware time is not on my side. My husband isn't as keen and would be happy with just the one. I have one sister who is my best friend and couldn't imagine not having her growing up. I feel sad thinking of my wee girl ever feeling lonely but maybe that is silly as she will make friends etc. So yeah no advice but I'm in a similar boat 😅

I've seen lots of people my age lose parents and relatives this year at what I feel is a young age (early thirties) for such an horrendous thing to happen to so many of them. A handful are only children and seeing them navigate probate and arrangements alone has been eye opening. We struggled to conceive our first, and I still think I would be more than happy if we weren't able to have a second, but I'd like to try if we can. I'm one of two and very close to my sibling, I appreciate that's not always the case though!

We were the same after our first, didn’t want to go through birth again, happy with one child and also happy to save money and have energy with just one child to look after.

But as he’s got older (about to turn two), he’s just amazing and we’d love to have another tiny little amazing human.

Also, looking into the future and imagining Christmases and summer holidays and family gatherings, I want the house to be filled with noise and energy and people, and eventually partners and potentially grandchildren. So we’re hoping 2 children will (eventually) bring all that.