Taking a break from ttc for mental health beneficial?

[LittleLemonPie]

Hi there

Me and my husband have been ttc for about 4 years, first two years was off birthcontrol and didn’t prevent.

Into year 3 I tracked my LH for ovulation due to pcos I didn’t ovulate as often as normal but weight-loss did help me to ovulate more often than my normal.

The last year of our journey has been fertility treatments to help me ovulate more regularly due to pcos. We started fertility treatments last June/july 23

9 cycles of letrozole in total- we got pregnant in august last year on our 2nd cycle of letrozole but i miscarried in sept which i found so hard.

I have had 2 cycles of the gonatrophin injections, and I am now at the end of my 2nd cycle of the injections with my period due on Fri and I feel so deflated and mentally done in with the whole process, it’s so so hard.

Every cycle my progesterone his been really good, uterine lining has always been good and I’ve had a couple of cycles with 2 follicles. And hubbys test were all excellent from his tests when we were first referred.

I don’t know what I’m looking for here, maybe just venting or hearing others stories. I know I’m not alone in the ttc journey and I know there are others been trying so much longer too.

I think possibly taking a break is a must right now for me mentally, but part of my thinks what if next time could have been it is what I need to let go of atm to keep me mentally healthy.

To anyone who reads all this I am true grateful 🙏🏼 x

Absolutely take a break.

Go out for lovely meals in pokey no-bookings restaurants with tiny awkward staircases.
Take last-minute trips to medieval towns with steep cobbled streets.
Take long bubble baths.
Make love/fuck/ rather than TTC.
Have wild weekends with friends.

@OMGsamesame thank you for replying 🙏🏼 get back to enjoying life 💜

It was for me, we had been trying for 18 months with a couple of miscarriages included. We took a 6 month break and on the second cycle of trying again I conceived my twins.

@PilgorTheGoat That’s lovely to hear. Thank you x

And it's OK to vent, you don't have to have been going longer or harder than anyone else to be legitimately frustrated and sad

@OMGsamesame thank you ❤️

@OMGsamesame

Make love/fuck/ rather than TTC.

This is so important. Sex needs to be fun, not some obligatory work.

Yes i believe it always should be, as the years went on we actually got better at having fun than planning and timing too rigidly.

Best wishes OP. It sounds so difficult, a break sounds a really good idea. Staying mentally well is equally important, so see the break as self care and important too.

We had been trying for DC2 for 2 years, with 2 early miscarriages in that time. We actually decided to stop trying as it had taken over our whole life. Everything felt lighter instantly.

I did actually get pregnant a couple of months later, and DC is now 3.

@JenniferGreenHat so sorry to hear of your losses.
That is good to hear the break did you good and were blessed with your second child couple months later 🥰 Gives me hope when it seems like there is none left. Thank you x

How sad Norm. Wow incredible

I’ve heard great things about taking a break and what that can do for fertilisation. Really hope you get to enjoy some time off mentally from it, and it happens for you because of that 👍🏻