DH can't finish

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I'm a few days into my FW TTC #2 (cycle 4). So far we've DTD three times but each time DH hasn't been able to finish. He can perform but just not get over the finish line. He says he feels under pressure knowing he has to do it.

Has anyone experienced this? Any suggestions?

Stop TTC, just have sex. Take the pressure off.
I’d also be asking if he really wants you to get pregnant, maybe he’s not really ready.

When we were TTC our first we had the same issue. If I told my partner I was ovulating and we had to do it that day he struggled to finish. This time TTC baby no2, I didn't tell him when I was ovulating at all, we just had sex fairly regularly and then when I knew I was nearing peak I just initiated sex a little more frequently and he was able to perform to completion then with the pressure taken off. We have just conceived first cycle TTC baby no (baby 1 took 10 months) so I think taking the stress away for him must have played a part. Good luck x

My other half has this issue, but has had it as long as he can remember (not just because of TTC). We do home artificial insemination so there's never any pressure when we're together.

Definitely take the pressure off. Have fun again just be with eachother. No porn or masturbation for your partner would cover all bases for anyone that's having this issue, particularly reoccurring.

Thanks everyone. He definitely wants to get me pregnant as he's super frustrated. Although as luck would have it, I came home late last night and he wanted to try again and it worked 🤞🏼 going to take the advice to not tell him when my FW is in future.

We had this issue too. We did what we called (and sorry) a wank fuck. So we'd have sex, then stop, he'd masterbate to the point of almost climax and then quickly get back in as he orgasmed.
The other thing we did was at home semination.

Also, just to add - a lot of posters on this and other similar threads all say not to tell him when you're ovulating. For me, I found the whole process of TTC frustrating and lonely. Months of trying and hiding the pain of it damaged my mental health. My husband is also my partner - why should he be stress free when I was a mess? And I don't mean that horribly, but TTC is a joint effort and I feel it is something that should be shared openly (warts and all) with the man you are trying to create a life with.

Yep we had this when ttc. It's a lot of pressure. Just stop completely for a while and stop talking about it and he'll probably just go back to normal.

We had this, I never told him when I was ovulating (maybe he guessed) and it seemed to help. Nothing less sexy than being expected to perform!

TTC is so stressful. Agree with everyone’s advice on here to just try to live/have sex normally and take the pressure off.

But that’s hard too - you’ll be conscious of roughly where you are in your cycle even if he isn’t. That can be lonely, and you might feel anxious to have sex around that time, and there’ll be disappointment every time that period comes. It’s a rollercoaster, there’s just no avoiding it.

DP told me not to tell him exactly when I stopped birth control so he wouldn’t feel pressure. But that made ME feel awful (alone, and like I’d kept something from him) so I ended up telling him anyway. Then I’d be upset when we hadn’t had sex for a while, and I felt weird when we had sex because I knew the aim … it was all just so different! You’ve spent your life trying and expecting NOT to get pregnant so it’s a big psychological change for everyone. And there’s a lot of guessing and waiting, which is stressful.

I suppose my point is a lot of people feel all this, you’re not alone!