Scared of TTC baby no 2

[WildflowerPetals]

I want another baby but I’m so scared of TTC. I have a son who is nearly 2 - It took us 2 years to conceive him and suffered 2 MMC’s in the process. I have little to no faith in the NHS or my GP’s. The only thing I have on my side this time is I potentially know what was causing the miscarriages (Factor V Leiden) but I don’t know why I struggle to conceive.

I’m scared it’ll take months again and each month will be lead to disappointment. I’m scared I’ll go through another miscarriage and be left heartbroken again.

I know I have my son and that gives me some comfort, but I know he’d be an amazing big brother and would love to give him a sibling.

I’m not sure what the point in posting this is… Maybe someone can give me some positive stories? ✨

Just to say I'm in a similar boat. I've been coming to the conception board a lot recently as we start thinking about whether to try for baby no 2.

I had recurrent miscarriage before having my son. They never found a reason but put me on aspirin and progesterone and maybe that did the trick.

I think via reading some conception threads and getting that guy punch feeling in my stomach when I see potential chemical pregnancies and talk of missed miscarriages, I know I'm not ready yet.

My son is only 16 months and I want to have longer just enjoying him and not go back to the anxiety of trying to conceive just yet.

If you think you might be ready, I would try and book a chat with your GP about getting a treatment plan in place in case of pregnancy (or before if that is needed). If you were treated by a recurrent miscarriage clinic there may be notes in your file in case of future pregnancies.

That's definitely what I will be doing when I'm ready to make feel a little bit more confident

I’m anxious about ttc#2, I didn’t have recurrent but I did have one mmc before I conceived my son. I spent the first half of the pregnancy convinced I was going to mc again. Then the middle section (20-31weeks) worried because I had placenta previa and I knew someone who had it and had to have their dc at 32 weeks. Then at 31 weeks I found out the placenta had moved, but then they told me I had preeclampsia. I had him at 35 weeks when I got worse and I’m not sure if he would have lasted much longer.

So I am concerned that if I conceive again I might have a mmc, or I might develop preeclampsia again and then it’s just hoping I’m in the right place and we are both ok.

We have decided to try. I’m just hoping that the above doesn’t happen again, and that we don’t have a long wait but who knows.

@GelatoPistacchio I know what you mean, I always thought I'd want to try for another when my son was 1, but we got to that point and I just knew I wasn't mentally ready. Now I feel as ready as I ever will, I think I'll always be scared and anxious about the outcome, but I feel somewhat mentally prepared to handle it. I've been trying not to hang around on forums too much as it just hightens my anxiety. I'm sure you'll get to a point where you just know you're ready, just give yourself some time. Like you say, enjoy your son while he's young and an only child, and one day he'll hopefully have a sibling too 🤞🏻

I'm going to contact my GP and see if there are any tests they can do for peace of mind. My periods are irregular so that might encourage them to do something.

@Blue2020 Sorry you had such a stressful time the first time round. Hopefully they'll monitor you more closely in your next pregnancy now they know you're maybe at risk for certain things.

Good luck to you on your journey 🍀

@WildflowerPetals Thankyou. Good luck to you too, I do hope you have a smooth pregnancy when it happens. Hopefully the gp can help.

If you know what potentially caused the miscarriages did you take something that helped your next pregnancy result in your son? If so hopefully you can take the same medication again? Sorry I don’t know about factor v Leidan.

Hey, just wondering a year on how you're all getting on ? I have a nearly 2 year old, had 2 miscs and then had a difficult start to my pregnancy with my son. He's happy and health and delivered at term. I'm just scared to start TTC again. I've been to the GP and had basic fertility bloods done and they are all normal. I've even had counselling due to the anxiety. Just wondering a year on how you've all got on and if it's all ok ?

@CwtchybearHi! Sorry you find yourself here. I found out I was pregnant in March but unfortunately had a MMC in April. I’d been having scans since I found out and I knew in my gut it wasn’t going to work out as the scans were never that reassuring. Sorry I don’t have more positive news but I didn’t want to read your message and not reply. I’m currently in the 2WW so in limbo atm x