Oh help! Just done a test ....

[Disenchanted]

its a first response and Im on CD28,

I watched it go acoss (the pee) and immediatly the control line went pink and a shadow came on the test line the shadow was there immediatly so I got soooo excited and ran into the kitchen and put the test on the side,

at 3 mins the line hasn't gone pink butits still there,

Nobody is here to tell me if Im nutty or not!

Knowing what cycle day you are on is very simple - it is counted from the first day of your last period.

I think TTC can become very stressful very quickly, even if you are relatively relaxed about it.

I never knew that lol
Now I can understand loads of posts better lol

Well, if you look on the conception board practically every woman on there knows their cycle day.

Each to their own.

I guess so belgo
It's not like I haven't been in the position of being desperate to fall pregnant
I just feel that maybe the stress can be reduced by trying to forget about it
I mean you onyl have to keep having lots of sex and you can remmeber to do that

Unfortunately, it can become all consuming and the only thing you can think about is becoming pregnant. It would be lovely if you could just forget about it.

please dont get angry or upset disenchanted
I'm sorry
I didn't mean to offend
I should have started a hread if I wanted to air my veiws about this and see if anyone agreed
I'm not picking on you

I hope you get your BFP on Sunday

Well thats what it seems like.

Don't worry Im not upset.

With my first 2 children I fell straight away, first month. Im on month 5 trying for this one and each month (even though 5 months isn't that long) I just feels awful when Im not pregnant again.

Maybe I am a bit too worked up but last time me and my friend were TTC at the same time so we talked about this stuff together.

This time round nobody knows in RL so I just tend to stick all my thoughts and feelings down here and any little developments so to speak.

I feel really bad now
I never meant to upset anyone

Don't worry. I bet you are just saying what half of MN is thinking

Oh good your back

I'm glad I didn't upset you

I would like to say that I understadn alot more now about what your doing

If you fell pregnant really quickly with your first two I can understand why you would be impatient with trying now
also if you aren't talking about it in rl that can mean you need to talk about it all here
I'll butt out now

best wishes

No, Disenchanted, don't feel sad. Trinity knows what it's like to be desperate to be pregnant. It's horrible and sucky and lots of other things. Keep venting on here - it really does help!

no I dont think that half of mn are thinking that
also dd2 turned three yesterday so it was 4 years ago when I was in the throes of trying to conceive

I would bet good money that I am remembering it as less stressful than it actually was.

disenchanted, half of mn feel exactly the same. TR didnt mean to upset you, its easy to think i'll relax this time but harder in practice. you will get your bfp soon, im sure of it!

Listen to Lissie - she knows!

Hey Disenchanted, sorry bout the BFN but HIGH FIVE for managing to wait as long as you did to test!!! That is progress

You are an inspiration - rememember to come and metaphorically shake sense into me in...ooohhh...about 10 days time

Listen, everyone deals with ttc-ing differently. You are not going to magically conceive just because you 'relax' about it and try to forget the knowledge you already have about your own body and cycle , but I do agree that it might make the ttc-ing more bearable.

I am with you in that I fell pregnant twice very quickly, so every month that goes past the 'WHY?' gets a little bit nigglier and a little bit bigger...

Morning Disenchanted I would say that 99.9% of MN's on the conception thread all feel the same as you do hun. You wake up thinking about it and go to bed thinking about it.... it's crap. Just keep going..if AF shows think of it as a new start, new possibilities!!

Thanks girls

I agree with the 'why?' thing. It does start to eat you up.

I just feel a bit like I always seem to make a fool of myself in RL and now on here.

I really am going to try and be calm next cycle.

Ive been really calm all this month really, its just when it gets to the end and 'testing time' that I get like this

Might take a break from here for a bit. Get DH to ban the IP adress!

No! You have not made a fool of yourself at all! Stay and talk. We all know exactly how you feel.

NO please dont
you haven't made a fool of yourself at all
you have ade me realise that becasue I'm sitting her with 3 children and my youngest is 14 months that I have forgotten what trying to conceive is like

I seem to have rose tinted glasses on when I think back to the year that it took to fall pg with dd2
I have thought about it now and it was hard, very hard

disenchanted, I just wanted to say, that I KNOW stress will not help. I tried for 3 yrs, and had lots of outside upset in my life, bereavement, a nervous breakdown .

Our life changed and suddenly I became pg.

This was our first baby, our only one it turns out now (we divorced), but seeing as you had yuo first 2 easily, I am sure you will be fine.

take care,a nd don't worry, I KNOW how embroiled you get int those dates , numbers , mucus, etc!!! Perfectly normal.

Disenchanted, don't worry there's nothing wrong with being informed about your body. And I don't believe relaxing has anything to do with getting pregnant - my conceptions have occurred when I've been on the edge of insanity (nothing like a £12,000 IVF cycle to relax you or a second trimester loss, or an idiot dh). I have had cycle, after cycle where I've been laid back & philosophical (well for the first year or so) and guess what ... oh yeah, not pregnant

Being Pollyanna-ish isn't going to suddenly cause sperm & egg to meet, produce a viable embryo, which implants in a good spot & continues to grow ... but it is oh so easy to say 'just relax!'

I alway test at 12dpo & if it isn't positive I wait for my period - haven't been wrong yet

sorry, agree with minster, i have never found relaxing helped. while in a perfect world we would all be relaxed and zen-like, we wouldnt watch our temps rise and dread that fall, we would just realise one day "ooooh i havent had a period for 2m" and we would be genuinely happy for every pg woman we see, rl doesnt work like that.

when you want something that badly restraint and dignity goes out of the window. you fret about every twinge, you unconciously hold your breath for 14d (on average of course) then you sob when your period arrives. you feel like shit and like such a failure because, lets face it, having a baby is the most natural thing in the world and you are failing at it, so what does that make you? then you pull yourself up by your bootstraps, take a deep breath ready for next month.

how can you possibly relax?

Disenchanted, hope you come back, you really helped me when I was feeling totally insane a couple of days ago, and you posted about feeling the same way. When the 'wanting to be pg' reaches fever pitch, no rational thinking is going to help. We all know that we can't 'will' ourselves pg, that testing early is pointless, worrying doesn't help, blah blah blah... but.... well it's nature, innit. Anyway, I'm 14 dpo, still BFN this morning, still no AF, still hoping, but the obsession has reduced to a vaguely manageable level. Fed up with the whole thing, and wish I could have my old carefree, pre-ttc self back!

Good luck x