Ovulating but not getting pregnant

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TTC#1 and day 21 bloods confirmed that I'm ovulating. I also track my temp and CM which both support I ovulate at the same time as my blood test results did.

Based on this we appear to be timing sex right and DTD in the 5 days up to ovulation and the day itself (every other day plus extra if we can fit it in!) were on cycle 7 and never had a bfp 🙁

Out of interest, apart from testing DH sperm, what could be the cause of this?

Not really sure where to go /investigate next... Thanks everyone

Honestly OP I know it’s hard but after 7 cycles just try not to worry, the stats show that even if everything is perfect and you time it perfectly you have around a 20% chance each cycle. X

Thanks. True, it's so hard though and close friends/family that have got pregnant have said it happened straight away which adds to the worry that something is wrong with me. I'm mid 30s and worried that the longer it goes on, the harder it will be

I think it’s just luck. There wouldn’t be a conception thread if it was that easy just to get pregnant doing everything in the right timings or everyone would get pregnant first time. I conceived from dtd once the entire month not trying. Then trying took 6 months doing everything as I should. It’s frustrating but it’s likely nothing is wrong and it will happen

general advice is not to worry before you've been trying for a year. after that, they may do tests but unfortunately a lot of infertility is unexplained and it could just be that you need a little more time. it's so much luck rather than judgement or planning unfortunately. it's hard when everyone else seems to get pregnant instantly though.

Have you had an AMH test or FSH test?
It's likely just bad luck and it will happen, but if you get to 1 year trying or aged 36/37 (whichever comes first) and still nothing I'd be looking at further investigations.
I started trying at 39 (so much later than you which does make a big difference) and now at 43 I've made the decision to stop trying.
They're not entirely sure why I haven't ever conceived. (Apart from once which was a MMC) Had all the tests under the sun. Had multiple IVF rounds where I could easily make embryos. But nothing stuck. Likelihood is at my age it's bad egg quality.
You have more time than I did but honestly I'd give it a few more months then look into investigations. Don't delay too long. Unless you're very very unlucky younger eggs will always better.

When DH had his sperm tested - and when we did IVF - they told him that he shouldn't ejaculate for three days before providing his sample, as the sperm would be better quality.

Over the years, we tried DTD every day, twice a day, every other day.... it was only when we left it a few days so we timed 'day three' with my peak LH day, that I got pregnant.

This is especially important if your DH is over 35!

I believe if you’re over 35 and have been trying for over 6 months you can already go to the GP for further investigation? Before going to the GP they recommend 1 year of trying if under 35, 6 months if you’re 35+. Although as above have said, it can just take a while! Most people will get pregnant within the first 12 months of trying, some unfortunately take the full 12 months and some get lucky within the first month. It’s incredibly frustrating but I wouldn’t necessarily say there’s any cause for concern yet x

Thanks everyone for your responses, I do agree it's luck of the draw in a lot of cases but also want to try and increase my chances of a lucky bfp 🙃

@PaperSheet I'm so sorry to hear about your experience and journey. What a tough time you've had. Thank you for the advice, I agree, will start some tests sooner rather than later, maybe piecemeal until 12 months and then go to my GP.

@bluebys that's interesting actually as DH is 38. We'll try leave some time in between for the sperm to brew!

@Ksh5460 yea that's a good way of putting it actually re some people taking the full 12 months. I think we might get DHs sperm tested in the next couple months, keep trying and then get advice and start investigations at the 12 month mark.

Have you had your tubes checked and also checked for Pcos (it doesn't always show obvious symptoms)? I hate the wait and see approach when you're in your mid-thirties.