Positive test 3 months after MC, don't know how to feel!

[Beks96]

Hi guys, is anyone else in a similar position? I tested yesterday, first with strips where the line was very faint, and today I've got a 1-2 weeks reading on a clear blue but a faint line on a rapid test.

I feel like I'm finding everything I can to pick it apart and convince myself it's not happening or it's already over. Mainly the faint line and the lack of sore boobs.

My mc was at around 8 weeks but measuring smaller at the end of March.

I feel so blessed to have been able to conceive naturally again quite soon after too, just can't help but put a negative on it. Does anyone else feel this way and if so, how do you cope with it? I don't want this negativity to overcome everything I do!

This sounds very normal and understandable to be honest. I think these early weeks will inevitably feel hard. Hopefully you’ll be able to relax a bit more once you get past the point of your last MC. Fingers crossed for you.

It's totally valid to be feeling worried given what you've already been through. However, try and reframe it: you've proven you can get pregnant, which is the first major (and arguably biggest) hurdle. And a miscarriage at 8 weeks is deeply unfortunate but 99% of the time just bad luck, it's not an indicator that every pregnancy will end this way. As the previous poster said, it's going to be inevitably hard until you get past the eight week mark. Could you pay for a private 7 week scan to ease the intrusive thoughts and help you manage the worry?

@PitterPatter3 thank you so much for the reassurance, means a lot 🤍 Think the challenge for me will be keeping out of the negative mindset, but it can be done.

@CTak that is so true, thank you so much for your kind words. It is all about being in that frame of mind isn't it, counting the blessings and the things that actually go right! We had been trying for just over 2 and a half years before falling pregnant the first time and so you're right it is a big hurdle.

I feel like the whole process of getting an internal scan may trigger me a little bit. I'm not sure if they do ultrasounds so soon, will need to check.

Thanks again both ❤️

Just read you can get private 7 week ultrasounds, that is definitely a good idea, thank you 🙏🏼

I’m in the same boat, had a MMC in February and will be 5 weeks pregnant tomorrow. Completely in denial about the whole thing and almost feel a bit of nothingness.. I’m terrified to get attached to have it taken away again.

I’m trying to tell myself “today, I am pregnant” as worrying about the future isn’t going to change any outcome that will happen and I need to connect with this pregnancy

I agree an early scan will be a good idea!

@Beks96 Wishing you the best of luck and a happy and healthy pregnancy 😘

Yes I had this. I had a mmc, I went for a private scan at 9 weeks oblivious and found out it had stopped a few weeks before. That was a very long 7 weeks from the private scan until the surgery.

I conceived again 3 months later and I was convinced it would end in a miscarriage again. I went for a private 9 week scan to find out either way since I couldn’t trust my body to tell me. I was pessimistic and anxious until the 20 week scan.

Then I relaxed after that and enjoyed feeling the movements and I now have a one year old ds who is incredible.

Good luck with your new pregnancy and I hope it all works out for you. I do understand the worry after the miscarriage and I am sorry for your loss.

@Beks96 I’m so sorry to hear about your loss and congrats on your new pregnancy 🙂

I found out about my MMC at 7.5 weeks back in April, and found out last week that I’m pregnant again after only one cycle. Amazed it’s happened again so quickly but so full of anxiety about it all.

I started a thread and there are lots of lovely women over there going through the same thing right now. Would love to have you if you fancied joining 💜

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/pregnancy/5100762-bfp-after-recent-loss

@MrsB2019x I'm so sorry for your loss❤️

Very similar timing to my mc and new pregnancy too. That is exactly how I would describe it, nothingness. I really don't want to get attached either or even think about the future. I told all of my family last time really early on and I don't want to tell anyone this time.

That is such good advice to take each day as it comes and deal with the day ahead. Trying my best to live in the moment. Wishing you all the best and everything crossed for you for a healthy, happy pregnancy

@CTak thank you so much lovely I really appreciate it ❤️

@Blue2020 I'm so sorry for your loss too

Congratulations for on the birth of your healthy baby, your story really does give me hope!

I have never thought about the prospect of having a missed mc as I was having spotting for a few weeks with mine, saw a heartbeat at the EPU, went back 2 weeks later and there was none.

The early scan is definitely a good idea, and I bet that provided some reassurance as well, to spur you on. If I was to do an early scan I'd want to wait until after the week I MCed.

Congratulations lovely, and thank you so much for sharing your experience xx

@purplecolouroffunk thank you lovely and I'm so sorry for yours too.

Congratulations on your new pregnancy I completely relate to you on this! I am so conflicted and feel absolutely amazed that I'm in this position, after nearly 3 years of trying. But I just can't help but have an impending sense of doom!

I will definitely take a look lovely thank you. Would be good to have people in the same boat to relate to. Thanks again xx