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What about the Vino while TTC?

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LenniEd · 07/04/2008 21:39

Out of interest, what does everyone do about drinking while TTC? I have always abstained during the 2WW but I'm going out for my birthday tomorrow on CD32. Don't want to tell the family we're TTC DC2, plus am fairly sure I'm not pg this time. Is it OK for me to have a couple of (large) white wines?

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YouCantTeuchThis · 07/04/2008 23:40

I personally go on as normal until I get a +ve (or very strong symptoms!!) as I just think my whole life would be spent waiting. I found out I was pregnant last time after my hangover lasted days...and I was actively ttc-ing

However, I know it is better for fertility to cut down on alcohol and adopt healthier lifestyle.

A couple of glasses of wine are unlikely to make huge odds before implantation as there is no shared blood supply as far as I know.

Happy to be corected though!

HairyToe · 08/04/2008 15:06

I'd be interested to hear what people think about this as well. My approach up to now has been similar to the last poster. I was carrying on as normal last cycle and had a few social occasions to go to where I drank a couple of glasses of wine (and a bit more on one occasion ). Then I found out I was pregnant, felt a bit guilty. The pregnancy turned out to be a CP and I got my period a day or two late. I know the pregnancy not 'sticking' really wasn't anything to do with the booze but still felt I should have looked after myself better.

This cycle I have been much more abstemious. Had nothing so far except two very weak wine and sodas last Saturday night.

I think current official advice (came out recently) was no alcohol at all for pregnant women and those TTC.

I sympathise with you about not wanting other people to know. I find this hard as I am known amongst friends and family as liking a few glassed of red when I go out. I haven't been able to come up with a believable reason for being teetotal yet. I keep just avoiding going out

CaptainKarvol · 08/04/2008 17:00

the official advice is NO alcohol now, but it has more to do with not being able to prove that a little does no harm than it does to do with there being any evidence that 1-2 units a couple of times a week (the previous advice) does any harm at all. I am wondering what to do as well, as I am TTC (and have been for 10 months now) and share a bottle of wine with DH on a Friday night. At the moment I am going on as usual, but may be tempted to give it all up soon.

beaniesteve · 08/04/2008 17:06

I'm still drinking. I go easy on it during teh TWW and I'm not necking a couple of bottles of wine every weekend but both me and my BF are still having the odd bottle.

ShayeraHol · 08/04/2008 19:36

I've reduced, but not cutting out completely - partly as it's a dead giveaway to friends as already said (I got funny looks for only having 3 gins the other night), and partly because I don't want to put my whole life on hold until I've got the old BFP.

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LenniEd · 08/04/2008 20:27

Agree entirely with the not putting your whole life on hold, enough of it gets put on hold as it is. Think I am going to carry on abstaining during the 2WW and cut back the rest of the month. On CD1 today so no longer a problem for my birthday anyhow. Need a good reason for friends though, as they are used to me enjoying my wine!

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ShayeraHol · 08/04/2008 21:40

I claimed dieting! Seemed to do the job...

nomoremagnolia · 09/04/2008 08:00

My IVF consultant said to carry on as normal (with everything, including drinking) until you get bfp. He even said it may well help you to relax As an top consultant at a university hospital's IVF clinic I trust him and his advice completely.

nomoremagnolia · 09/04/2008 08:01

ps hope you had a nice birthday

HairyToe · 09/04/2008 13:31

Good point about helping you to relax. I'm sure it is better to try and continue with normal life to avoid getting too hung up on the getting pregnant issue. I met up with friends and had a couple of (small) red wines last night. I think the only thing to do is drink a lot slower so people hopefully won't notice I'm not having as much!

I have resorted before to drinking white wine and lemonade, then secretly buying lemonades from the bar and topping up so people will think its another spritzer. This must be what its like to be an alcoholic - only in reverse!

Moomin · 09/04/2008 13:34

I don't think there's much worse than putting your life on hold the whole time just in case you get pg the whole while.

I was obsessive about what to eat and drink when we were ttc dd2 and it took us 2 years. With dd1 we just started trying with no extra restrictions and got pg within 3 months. Go figure!

(Probably good luck with dd1 but I definitely think self-inflicted stress delayed getting pg with dd2)

nomoremagnolia · 09/04/2008 19:31

Moomin - totally agree - we're at 2 1/2 years of ttc - that's over a year of not drinking if you add up all the 2wws!!!

Moomin · 09/04/2008 19:35

My wholehearted wishes of good luck to you NMM. We had booked our IVF and were 1 month off our first sesh when we finally got pg with dd2. I was so heartily sick of hearing this kind of story from all and sundry as I "knew" we wouldn't be one of the lucky couples that this happened to.

... but were were so I had to swallow my words. All the very best to you.xxx

Booboobedoo · 09/04/2008 19:39

Apparently, statistically speaking, you are more likely to fall pregnant with your first child if you are a moderate drinker (that's someone who drinks eight units a week according to the article I read).

However, when trying to get pregnant for a second time, non-drinkers tend to beat the moderates to it.

We had a rather miserable eighteen months trying to drink 'moderately'. Got there in the end, but I'm going to try to be a little more relaxed next time.

Good luck, and have a great birthday!

nomoremagnolia · 09/04/2008 19:40

That's great DH and I were hoping (without really believing it would happen) that being referred for IVF might make us more relaxed...(well you know how the story goes)
Unfortunately I won't be one of those I'm afraid as I'm on the cycle we're going to do the IVF on, just waiting for day21 to start down-regging drugs. Feel quite positive about it all though and we've been given odds of 40% success as we're both still young in IVF terms.

YouCantTeuchThis · 10/04/2008 12:28

Boo - but the statistics also say that non-drinkers who are overweight tend to wait the longest of all...

SO I'm just going to sit my fat ass down and have a lovely glass of wine

rattling · 10/04/2008 12:48

Reminds me of Rich Hall joke - deaths as a result of drinking : 3000/yr, deaths as result of driving accident : 6000/yr, deaths from drink driving 500/yr. Therefore if you are getting in a car, best knock a couple back first to improve survival chances

Booboobedoo · 10/04/2008 15:07

Lies, damn lies...

Drink up, Teuch. Hope you enjoy the conception process more than I did. (stares misty-eyed back to the days when sex was fun...).

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