My husband doesn't want another baby

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We have had 4 miscarriages since Jan 2023 trying for baby number 2. It has been unbearable. He's just told me he doesn't want to try again. How do I cope with this? Has anyone else been through similar?

I tried to have a baby with my now DH and had 13 miscarriages and then a ectopic and in the end I decided I couldn't do it any more. My partner wanted to try ifv and other things but I just couldn't go through with it. I've never regretted it.
On the flip side my exdh didn't want DS and left when he was a baby. He didn't actually tell me he didn't want him till I was past 20 week point.
Don't push things, have a break and some fun, and reconsider in a few months.

I’m really sorry you’re going through this. I’ve been through a decision to stop trying for number 2 after multiple miscarriages but that was more my decision really albeit a reluctant one. It must be extremely difficult if you want to carry on and he doesn’t. It was difficult at the time for me but it was the right decision for us.

I’m so sorry for your losses and I can only imagine..🤍 could it be your husband just needs time/a break. Can only imagine the toll it’s taken on both of you 🤍

Sorry for your losses.

Is it that he doesn't want another baby, or is it that he doesn't want to risk more distress? If the latter, maybe some time enjoying the summer and focusing on other things could change his mind.

It's definitely taken its toll but I think as time goes on he is getting less likely to want to try again.

I think it's a bit of both as we both found the baby stage difficult and we wanted a second as soon as possible to get the baby stage done. We're also getting a bit old now as I'm 38 and he's 43.