Bad news for me. End of the road for us.

[Khanny]

Hi everybody, not really sure why I am coming to post other than to say it is the end of the road for us sadly. I feel numb and absolutely devastated that there is nothing we can do. Basically I got the call from our private fertility clinic yesterday so say that my blood had come back and my AMH is 0.2, and when I was scanned although they could see a small amount of eggs, there weren't many and the 0.2 AMH means IVF is most likely NOT to work at all. The only option we have is donor eggs and we don't have the money for this route.

Good luck to all you ladies TTC, I hope you get your babies x

That’s so sad, can only imagine the emotions you’re feeling right now. Could treatment abroad be an option? I get a lot of sponsored ads about clinics abroad and they seem to be much cheaper but I’m not sure about donor eggs. Sending love and hugs x

Firstly, I am so so sorry for you. This is horrible news and you deserve every right to grieve your losses and feel anger and sadness at the unfairness of it all.

Secondly, this is only the end of one road, or at least, it need only be the end of the road if you choose for it to be.

I would look into the option of abroad donor eggs if this is an avenue you wish to persue. I'm strongly of the opinion a mum and dad are the parents that raise and love the child, nothing to do with biology. So please don't feel you have no chance of being a mother, as there are many routes to this left open to you.

Even with low success rates if the NHS is willing to offer you IVF with your own eggs it could be worth doing if free, so long as you manage your expectations.

If not, then take some time and think it through and have a look into donor eggs - there are payment plans available for this sort of thing and plenty of people also do go fund mes etc.

It's not fair that this is happening to you, and I'm so sorry. Life certainly isn't fair especially when it comes to fertility. Look after yourself ❤️

My sincere condolences. I wish I had words of comfort to offer, I can only hope you find joy and purpose beyond biological parenting.

Best of luck

I am very sorry for you. While the sense of loss is horrid right now, I hope a future solution emerges for you.

Thank you to you all for taking the time to reply and send your kind words. I think looking into donor eggs is going to be my next research but if we will peruse I don’t know just yet. My age is the cause as I am 43 but I don’t feel ready for this stage of my life and when it is out of your control it’s difficult to accept. We just wanted to be lucky enough to have at least one child together. Thank you again xx

I’m so sorry, OP. I have friends in the same boat. Gateway Women has a lot of resources and support for the childless not by choice, whether that’s in your future or not. x