Someone please give me some hope

[louise9422]

Hi MN. Last year in May in was diagnosed with PCOS. We’d been trying since January last year but I just knew I had PCOS - I’ve always known, so to get it confirmed was a step in the right direction. My doctor prescribed Metformin and since then I’ve lost more than a stone and found it SO much easier to keep my weight at a reasonable level.

We were told to keep trying, but by October we’d had enough. We went back to the doctor and with a bit of back and forth, we eventually got referred to a specialist in January. When I found out the waiting time is 35 weeks, it floored me. I was devastated thinking it would take that long to see anyone, but accepted it and tried to focus on the future.

A week after this - I found out I was pregnant! It was a huge shock, especially given my husband’s semen tests weren’t exactly great. We were so happy and everything was going fine. Then, in March, one day before our 12 week scan was due, I got really unwell and rushed to hospital. It turned out the pregnancy was ectopic and my fallopian tube had ruptured. I had to have an immediate blood transfusion and emergency surgery. I nearly didn’t make it, and of course my baby died. I spent 5 days in hospital and couldn’t even lift my head off the pillow to drink water or eat anything for a few days. Recovery took me weeks and I needed 8 weeks off work.

I lost one of my fallopian tubes in the surgery, and honestly, I’ve just lost all hope of it happening natural again. I lost a baby back in 2018 at 6 weeks too, so I’m just so low at the moment.

Also, everyone - and I mean every friend in our lives is pregnant at the moment - including my best friend who is due the same week I was due. We seem to hear an announcement every other week at the moment, and I know it’s not nice to say, but it is killing me. It’s awful and so hurtful to me because I know I should also be pregnant at this time too.

Has anyone else had a successful pregnancy with 1 tube and PCOS? I’m feeling so low and resentful of everyone around me who seem to get pregnant so easily.

Hi, I'm so sorry that you're having such a hard time. I don't know about the PCOS side, but I do know that Sophie, Duchess of Edinburgh, had two successful pregnancies after suffering a ruptured ectopic pregnancy. Really hope that all turns out well for you. That feeling of everyone around you being pregnant when you want it so much yourself is awful.

It's certainly possible. Though if you have the means and are in your mid-thirties, I'd definitely consider private IVF.

Sorry to hear of the challenges you've faced, sounds like a horrible experience.

So sorry this happened to you. I had an ectopic in 2020 and had emergency surgery too and lost my right tube. It's a scary experience and it can take a while to heal emotionally and physically. Be kind to yourself.

I'm not sure about PCOS but I can say I did manage to get pregnant with one tube fairly quickly (ended in MC but that's another story). So please don't lose hope OP.

Thank you everyone for your responses. It’s so lovely to hear from people. We have thought about private IVF, but I’ve only just turned 30, so we think we might wait for the NHS option for now. It’s so hard to know what to do! We could afford private, but it would wipe all our savings out.