Could I be pregnant? Scared to death

[applesanddessert]

I wanted to ttc in a few months but casually, thought I'd get the copper iud removed and get my body ready.

I was told my cycle shouldn't have been affected as this isn't a hormonal iud.

Last period ended: 18th May
Sex with withdrawal: 20th May
Expected ovulation based on cycle: 24th May
IUD removal: 29th May
Sex with withdrawal: 31st May

Thinking we passed the unsafe zone we had sex twice without withdrawal on below dates:

Intercourse: 3rd and 5th June.

Period expected on 11th June.

Today is 9th June and I'm scared I might be pregnant, chances seem low but I have no obvious signs of a period coming. I'm scared to test.

I am 36 with 2 kids already wanted to be a bit more casual with second, hubby is 41 and with our other 2 it took a few months to 6 months to conceive so would be utterly shocked if this month I happen to be....

My cycles are usually 29 days long.

It is close enough to your period to take an early detection test and get an answer today. I know you're scared, but no one on here is going to be able to tell you if you're pregnant or not. I'd just rip the plaster off and do it so that you can stop worrying! Also I'm sorry if this sounds patronising but if you're worried about being pregnant I really would advise you to use condoms rather than the withdrawal method. I know people who have become pregnant using it!

Even with an iud in with the pull out? I thought I removed iud after expected ovulation, I was under the impression my cycle wouldn't be affected...

I meant post IUD removal 😊 of course with the IUD in you should have been covered!

So that means I could have ovulated after the iud removal, which means my cycles could have been messed up.

I know I should just test but I'm scared to....

If your scared to death of being pregnant why on earth did you not use a more reliable form of contraception?

It is of course possible that you could have ovulated post iud removal. With everything you've said it probably is unlikely that you're pregnant but definitely not impossible. You're going to find out one way or another so I think you might as well just find out today with a test.

Why are you so scared when you were planning it in a few months anyway? What difference will a few months make? I'd get an early pregnancy test and take it first thing tomoro.

Genuinely don’t get the issue. You want to conceive in a few months. This is hardly a disaster.

I didn't realise I would feel this way, I'm so sorry if I'm upsetting anyone....

You've got nothing to apologise for. I am currently 1st cycle TTC for baby 2 and I've had every emotion possible! Do you think maybe deep down you want it, but it just feels really scary now that it's an immediate possibility?

I honestly don't know, I've been quite emotional deciding on a third and has taken months to decide to come off any contraception, I thought I'd phase my emotions in and see how I go while keeping options open, just didn't want to make sudden decisions without planning..

I also work full time in an industry that doesn't really offer part time so I've been trying to come to terms with the idea of being a full time working mum with 3. Most mums of three I know are now SAHMs and worked later on in life part time and those that worked full time have stayed at 2 so I felt like I was pushing it too far thinking I could do both...

I'll see how things go, thank you for being supportive. I honestly wish you the best with your journey, my second took a while to conceive so happy to share tips when my heads not spinning...

Just wondering how you're getting on? X