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Bfp after 12!! years secondary infertility

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whattheflump · 21/05/2024 11:57

I can't believe I'm typing this. I have endometriosis, PCOS, I'm 40 years old, gave up trying years ago. My ex resented me for having difficulty conceiving, I tried Clomid (despite ovulating regularly) which didn't work and messed with my hormones so badly it put me off the thought of ivf. We split. Life went on.

8 years later, I'm happily married with a teenage (only) child. DH not bothered about having children, we've never tried. He always said if it happened it would be great but if not, also great. Admittedly, we've never prevented either because I'm infertile, right? Years and years of no baby have proved this, surely at my age there's certainly no chance.

I thought I was perimenopausal. Endo symptoms have been worsening, I didn't feel well, thought I'd caught a cold or something. My pre-period spotting didn't happen, I waited and waited. I was at the surgery for something unrelated this morning and the nurse asked if I could be pregnant, I laughed as she handed me a pot to check. Dont know how she could tell but she asked me to go with her to watch the strip get dipped. Bfp Shock I must have gone grey, she showed me to a chair.

Twelve years! Twelve! Spent my early/mid thirties in the infertility grieving process, years of stalking infertility boards, watching friends and colleagues have babies, experienced depression and anxiety, had surgeries, numerous invasive tests, had a breakdown, felt immense guilt at not being able to give DC a sibling, tried everything, every weird and wonderful trick and old wives' tale in the book. Life has moved on and NOW I get a bfp!

A mere month ago I started taking inositol again, not for fertility (see above, life has moved on) for sugar cravings and weight gain linked to insulin resistance. I accidentally bought the one with D chiro added, took it anyway. Is that what did it? Nothing else has changed except no sugar cravings. How can one dietary change like that deliver a bfp after over a decade? I'm dumbfounded.

DH is in shock. Not told the teen yet, not telling anyone yet. According to my last period it's very early so won't get ahead of myself, I know the stats at my age. It's going to take a while for this to sink in. Twelve years!

OP posts:
Sez281 · 21/05/2024 12:13

This has been my favourite post in a long time! Congratulations OP! I can literally feel the shock and happiness emanating from your post 🥰 I'm 41 and almost 20 weeks pregnant on my first. I've had previous losses and we had been trying for just over a year which felt like a lifetime but is a drop in the ocean compared to your 12 years! You'll always wonder if it was the slight dietary change that did it but whatever the reason enjoy every moment! Wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months ahead 💝

jellyfish2 · 21/05/2024 12:16

What a lovely post!! Wishing you a healthy pregnancy 🩷

T0r11210 · 21/05/2024 12:20

@whattheflump congratulations!! What a great post to read 😁 as you had been having unprotected sex for so long it does sound like the inositol worked for you but either way something did!
Wishing you a happy pregnancy

imy · 21/05/2024 13:33

This has made my day! Congratulations!

OnePinkDuck · 21/05/2024 20:19

How wonderful, I love hearing about these magical moments. Congratulations!!!!

Theosmommy2011 · 21/05/2024 20:26

That is wonderful news. Congratulations xx

Oldermum84 · 21/05/2024 20:39

Congratulations 👏 🎉

Carportforme · 21/05/2024 21:40

Oh yes, fantastic news, congratulations 😁

NamingUserName · 21/05/2024 21:43

Huge congratulations! Book yourself an early scan from when you think you are 7 weeks. Love the nurse!

Butterfly2000 · 21/05/2024 23:48

This is wonderful!! Congratulations! 🥳🥳

Ciderlout · 21/05/2024 23:51

Aww congratulations to you, how lovely for you all. Xx

JollyHostess101 · 21/05/2024 23:54

ahhh how bloody amazing!!

I’ve had a real shitter of a day but this has but a massive smile on my face!!

sending you lots of good wishes for the months ahead!!

Outliers · 21/05/2024 23:54

Wish you a smooth and healthy pregnancy 😊

SnowFrogJelly · 21/05/2024 23:57

Congrats! 😁

CJ0374 · 22/05/2024 00:03

Congrats! What a shock, but a surprise also!
Do you have any idea how far along you might be? Start folic acid- 400mcg if a normal weight and 5mg if overweight. Look into NIPT, which may not have been a consideration when you had your now teen.

shieldmaiden7 · 22/05/2024 00:28

Massive congratulations OP! All the best to you and your family. I am so happy for you xx

Cantsleepwideawakeclub · 22/05/2024 02:31

You have completely made my day! Sending you the biggest congratulations, wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy. I also suffered with infertility for 14 years, it's not meant to be for me unfortunately.
Enjoy every moment xx

SnackyOnassis · 22/05/2024 04:06

This is the best thing I've read in ages - so thrilled for you! Sending so much good luck for your next 9 months - and beyond!!! ❤️❤️❤️

SnowSnow · 22/05/2024 04:12

Congratulations how fabulous. It probably was the inositol. Over 7 years ttc for me and got pregnant within first month of taking inositol. Wishing you a healthy and happy pregnancy

MotherOfShihTzus · 22/05/2024 09:19

This is such a lovely post ❤️ it absolutely could be the sugar reduction - I'm about to try the same :) x

Pressurewasher55 · 22/05/2024 11:07

What a lovely post!❤congrats op. Might have to try this myself as also enduring secondary infertility with endo x

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