When to stop trying?

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We have a DS who is just turned 7.
We tried for our second baby last year and got pregnant first month but it ended up as an Ectopic pregnancy and I had to have emergency surgery with removal of my right fallopian tube.
I'm 35 and will be 36 next month, DS is 7 and I am extremely anxious and panicky the more time goes on about having another baby.
We would love another and a sibling for my son, and he would love a brother or sister and is always asking why he hasn't got one and when can we have one.

My worry is the age gap increasing between my first and a second, and my age.

Me and DH have decided to just go with the flow and see what happens I'm not tracking ovulation and we are enjoying being intimate and hopefully we will get lucky.

Any experiences or advice welcome 🤗

Hi OP, I have been in a similar situation. We started trying for a second when DD was 5 and she is almost 9. I was worried about the age gap but then we discovered that unfortunately I have secondary infertility so chances of having a second is basically impossible. We were like you "go with the flow" but after I was told I couldn't it almost became a case of "I'll prove you wrong and I got unhealthy obsessed with conceiving".
It was a few years of heartache, miscarriages, options of donor eggs and adoption. I am content now and look at all the positives having only 1 brings.
If I were you I would have a good long think about what you really want as you are at the age when eggs begin to decline. And once they are gone there's no going back.
I know if I had been told after I had DD that my chances of having more were slim I would have tried a lot earlier that I did. Good luck in your journey xx

I also wouldn't worry too much about age gaps between siblings. I think it all depends on how they are raised and how dedicated you are to having a close family unit.
I also understand you worrying about your age but I don't think it matters, I know of women still having babies in their 40s and they are incredible mum's.

We have teenages then a single when I was 37 twins last year at 38 no problems age difference or with the babies

Have you checked your FSH and AMH to know where you stand with fertility?