Larger Age Gap - pros?

[dancingfairy1]

Feeling really stressed and anxious about the widening age gap between DD and #2 that we're still trying for. I wish we started trying again sooner but all I can do is accept we may not get our ideal age gap.

I'm struggling because everyone I know in our Mom group has already had their second, or currently pregnant.

Just wanting to know I'm not alone and what the pros are of having a big age gap?
We love family holidays but now I'm worried that it'll be hard to find holidays/activities that will suit both kids if they're not similar ages.

And bonus question, does anyone have a smaller age gap between #2 and #3? Did it cause #1 to feel left out?

There are 5 years between me and my sister and almost 7 between me and my younger brother. Growing up we got in well (I just bossed them around in all the things I wanted to do!) and then we were probably quite distant when I was a teenager as into different things. As adults, my sister is my best friend and we speak every day. They will be adults longer than they are children and age won't mean anything like as much.

Thanks @chillipopcorn1!
I'm great friends with my siblings now we're older but I did often feel alone in my teenage years which sucked. I'm just worried it'll happen again for DD.
Thanks for your response though it helps.

How old is your dd?

Five years between each of my three, they got on well when younger and by the time the youngest was three we had in house babysitting! They still get on great as adults. Much better for my sanity too, I love big gaps.

I never felt alone during my teenage years - I just didn't particularly want to hang on with my siblings as I just wanted to be with friends! I still loved and cared for my brother and sister though, just didn't play with them.

@Toomuchgoingon79 Will be at least 4 years gap if we are lucky soon but preparing for the worst so I don't feel so low.

My DD1 is just gone 4 and DD2 is 5 months.

Pros

DD1 can dress and feed herself

Sleeps well

Was potty trained day and night and can take herself to the toilet at home.

Listens and can be left unsupervised for a short time while baby is being put down upstairs / making bottle etc. Will walk nicely alongside the pram.

Will occupy baby for short periods for me to do quick jobs

Understands that sometimes baby needs something asap and she might have to wait a little while

Is in school part time so baby gets some just one on one time.

DD1 understood what a sibling was and had asked for a brother or sister. Is very loving to DD2 and understands she needs to be gentle etc.

Cons

I do worry when baby is a bit older how we will manage days out they both enjoy at the moment baby just goes along for the ride. Luckily she is a chilled out girl.

DD1 brings home all the school germs for poor baby.

I think there are way more pros and I have to be honest having two very close looks very frazzling. I'm not saying I don't get frazzled but it's been manageable so far.

Don't worry about gaps or compare yourself to others around you. You can have a happy family with almost any combination. With a larger gap your older one will probably really enjoy having a little brother or sister. This is the case with my niece, who was 5 when her brother arrived. She would have had major jealousy issues if he had arrived much earlier.

They are now 7 and 2 and enjoy loads of days out together. Parks, farms etc.