Struggled first time round now TTC2

[FinallyPregnant2022]

I feel incredibly selfish writing this as I have been lucky enough to have a healthy and happy 16month old.
It took us 19 months....we conceived naturally but after tests and a referral for IVF (low morphology).
We are now trying for number 2, we're only 4 months in but I'm already feeling deflated and fed up. I thought I would be more chilled out this time but I'm awful its as if I have PTSD from first time round!!!
I know I'm in for a long wait (my head tells me that) but every month the anxiety of waiting and dissapointment is killing me.

I'm sorry if this comes accross as insensitive and ungrateful to people who are struggling and have been through more than I have.

Ttc is very stressful 😫 I'm 2 and a half years ttc now but I also have a 5 year old dd,in the process of doing a second ivf cycle! All this stress and anxiety is normal and there's no pattern to fertility you could fall pregnant next cycle you just never really know! maybe try clomid and trigger injection? That works for most :) you could retest your partners semen if it's not great you could think about icsi, you do have options there's always options

You aren't selfish at all to have the family you wish for so try not to feel that way. Everyone has their own struggles.
My first baby took us 18 months and I have PCOS and partner a VERY low sperm count and every parameter extremely low. Classed as severe. We ended up having IVF ICSI which resulted in my 2 year old.
We started trying for a second when he was about 15 months as that's when my periods returned after breast feeding and I was worried it wouldn't happen naturally anyway.
After 4 months I had a chemical which was devastating. And it's taken us a year nearly and I had the shock of my life to see a positive test last week. It's early days still so quite anxious but trying to be hopeful🤞.
What I'm saying is, it might take a bit longer but it can happen. Don't give up but try and have another focus. I know it's difficult but fertility is not something we can control. So try and reduce stress as much as possible too.

Congratulations! Thanks - keep trying then!

I agree, you are not being selfish at all. Everyone has a different journey and you have had your own struggles. I know the feeling of being deflated. Conceived before we even started trying last year and was shocked to find I had had an MMC when we went for the 12 week scan. Embryo only measured 6 weeks so I had spent six weeks carring it with no signs of loss, quite the contrary in fact. I had never heard of an MMC before so having gone through what I thought was nearly 13 weeks of being pregnant it came as a horrible shock to find out.
Anyway, I am waffling - I was just going to say that we have been trying to get pregnant again since the MMC with no luck so I do feel your frustration and I wish you every success in your journey towards baby 2. X