How did you feel when you had a chemical pregnancy?

[retrievermum]

Hi everyone, cycle 2 of TTC baby 2 and after having a few days of faint positives gradually fading, AF arrived today four days late, which I think I’m in calling a chemical pregnancy?

If you’ve had one, how did you feel (emotionally) after?

DH and I are desperate to add baby number 2 to the family, already later than we had planned as I’m still BF DD (almost 1) so wasn’t ovulating. DD was conceived first try.

I feel very conflicted as part of me feels sad that this hasn’t worked out, and that the age gap between DD and any future siblings is getting bigger, but mostly, I’m not really bothered? Not sure if I’ve not processed it yet, but I’m kind of thinking ‘onto the next one’ and then feel guilty for feeling like that.

Am I an awful person?!

(Also, how long after a CP did you conceive again, and did it stick?)

Sorry for your experience! I was kind of similar to be honest, I had a chemical pregnancy at just before 5 weeks, just woke up bleeding and knew immediately. I went to work and gave a presentation 😅 like it was sad but I hadn't really got used to the idea of being pregnant anyway and we hadn't told anyone. I got pregnant next cycle with a successful pregnancy.

I think it's fine to feel however you do!

Hi, first I'm really sorry for your loss. I have no living children..

We got pregnant in Nov 2022 - chemical.
April 2023 - missed miscarriage
August 2023 - blighted ovum
December 2023 - miscarriage

If im honest - I recovered quite quickly from them all, I still get sad but Dh says he can't believe how fast I snap back into the same as you 'onto the next one' but I do think it's just a way of coping. I did have some time off work with them (a week or two each) and I'm on anti depressants now cos I think it affected me more than I even let on! (They help me massively!!!) I'm currently 8dpo but don't think we conceived this month but we can hope 🫶🏻

I hadn’t even told DH I’d had positive tests this time! I was planning on getting a ‘big sister’ tshirt or similar for DD to tell him and I’d obviously known deep down this one wasn’t going to stick as I’d not made any progress towards ordering one.
I think I’m disappointed about the future and the potential age gap rather than actually sad about this happening, if that makes sense?

@Quolla thank you for this!

@mlc0 hopefully this month is the month for you 🤍