Trying to manage my expectations

[MissEmily5]

Hello all,
I’ve not been in this situation before so trying to manage my expectations and lessen the potential disappointment… any words of advice/similar situation etc.

I’m 28 years old, been TTC baby number 1 for 7/8 months now.

I’m on CD30, and I believe I’m on 13dpo- although I’m not entirely sure as I ran out of ovulation tests as on holiday and only received high fertility and not my peak, so there could be a chance that I didn’t even ovulate.

I’ve had a couple of weird things happen this cycle; I started brown spotting on CD21 (which should have been 4dpo) it was rather light and didn’t fill a pad at all or even leak through underwear (a mixture of brown stretchy CM and brown creamy CM) so 10 days of spotting…

And I was due on my period on CD29, so just a day late (never have I been late before) but still just spotting today again and even less than yesterday. But some mild cramps but I’ve had mild cramps for the past week.

I’m usually on average a 27/28 day cycle, however this year my periods have been a bit haywire- last month it was 25 days, before then was 31 and the month before 30. So I’m planning on testing again on Thursday if my period hasn’t come before then.

I did a test today (not with FMU, but after a 3 hour hold), and got a BFN…I’m fully expecting my period to start tonight or tomorrow but I feel so rotten and not the usual way I feel; chesty, headache, nausea, loss of appetite and very tired, but I can’t help this little glimmer of hope… my sister who is currently pregnant (19weeks) had what she thought was a very light period and tested the day before her period and the day after and got BFN, it wasn’t until several weeks later when she was feeling sick and she got her BFP.

I’m just so scared to let myself hope and then get an inevitable BFN when AF shows her ugly head…

TTC is so stressful, really hoping you get your good news this month.

What test did you use? I got my very faint positive test around 8dpo but some seats are a lot more sensitive than others.

@notyetpregnant thank you very your reply and kind words… you’re definitely right it’s sooo stressful! I always thought it would be so much fun and I was so excited to try for a baby.

I used Aydmed pregnancy test which is apparently 10mIU/ml, so I’m not hopeful. But once again a little nagging hopeful doubt, that my sister had very low HCG which the midwife explained that some people just do and it’s perfect fine…

Often good to wait til 14 / 15 dpo..

I had a weird tiny tiny amount of blood @ cycle day 20 ish..

Today = cycle day 34 ish

Tests negative so far

I.dont feel like period is coming

I think by thurs il have period or pos test..

When i was preg last yr - positive was on a numark very early test.on cycle day 37

I have pcos so ovulate later sometimes

Last yr mine was early miscarriage
But a high percentage of first ever pregnancies go that way.

Sending all the luck

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@worldwidetravel2017 thank you for your response, I’m planning on testing on Thursday if no period that would make me 15dpo and CD32 (I’ve never had a cycle longer than 31 days).

Me and my husband have actually had a private fertility assessment and we’ve found out that I have a thin uterine lining (which is improving- it was monitored just for two cycles) and my husband has a low sperm count (again there was an improvement between the 2 tests and within a month) so we’re going in the right direction!

Did you test again?

Hows things

Update- still no period and now 6 days late, I’ve tested negative yesterday after using 2 different tests. I’m waiting to hear back from doctors today in regards to a blood test.
I spoke to my sister regarding her pregnancies and she didn’t get a positive pregnancy test till weeks into her pregnancy! So we’ll see if that’s the case or if it’s just my period gone missing… either way I would like some answers. I’ll make sure to keep you updated:)

Im in the same position as you..
Do keep us updated

Cycle day 40 here

I emailed my gynae consultant today

I have a gp call tomo anyway for other stuff

Same as you said - id just like an answer now

Update- so the period still hasn’t come and I’m now on CD40. However, I have been taking CBAD OPKs for the past 5 days approx and have been getting flashing smiley faces (high fertility). On CD38 I received a solid smiley face (peak fertility). So my period was 8 days late and then an LH surge detected after that! Earlier on in my cycle I only got high fertility and no peak, I thought I just missed it as I wasn’t able to test twice a day like I normally do when I hit my predicted fertile period.

Cant remember if i asked this already but have u been assesed for pcos ?

@worldwidetravel2017 Yes, I’ve had checks and tests, and although I have lots of eggs (they’re all good quality) I have no other symptoms of PCOS, so no I don’t :)

@MissEmily5 I think you just had an odd period it can happen sometimes.

@emmatcc1 yes, it certainly seems that way! Just grateful that we’ve had another chance so soon to try again. Hopefully the late ovulation will help with my thin lining situation or at least not be negative. Thanks for your reply!

Assume you've had your shbg , free androgen etc
Tested ?
( blood tests ) ....

I didnt have pcos last summer
But do now.

Things changed...

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@worldwidetravel2017 no I haven’t had them tested- I’ve had the following tested; AMH, prolactin, TSH, rubella and a couple transvaginal ultrasounds. But I’ll definitely bear that in mind when/if we hit the year mark.

And I understand that but considering I only had my assessment last month I think it’s all good for now. Thanks though.