TTC for our 3rd - just had 2nd mc. Will it happen again??

[loveverona]

Feeling pretty low today after MCing for a 2nd time yesterday. Have two gorgeous children (DD 5 and DS 2). Miscarried at 9 weeks in Nov 07 and yesterday at 5 weeks. First two pregnancies were so healthy, but now wonder if I'll ever have another baby.

Has this happened to anyone? Did you stop trying, or were you 3rd time lucky?

Just didn't expect this to happen to me. Need cheering up. At least the sun is shining!

im sorry that this has happened again, dont give up hope. i know its very lonely, but there are lots of women who have been through simillar things, take a bit of time for yourself, it does get easier x

Thanks lissielou. What's your experience of this? Hope not too bad.....

unfortunately im not a great advert for ttc after mc. sincew ds was born 3y ago ive had 7 mc's and an ep. but im just unlucky

Good God! I really don't have anything to complain about, do I. You poor thing. How do you keep going! I guess that urge to have a child is so strong for most of us, that we'll go to great lengths.

I have to say, my gut instinct is to try probably just once more as we'd love a 3rd, but I wouldn't put myself through it much more as we have two already and maybe after a while you have to say it's fate saying we have our fair share-it's time to stop, if that makes sense. I know that if I was in your position, I'd want to keep going too. I really hope you have more luck soon. I admire your strength.

Enjoying a nice glass of red wine now, because I can!! There has to be a plus side in all of this!

Hi loveverona, I'm very sorry about your m/c's. Wishing you lots of luck for your 3rd child and a happy and healthy pregnancy when you do conceive again.

god, im luckier than a lot of women on here. it is tough, but it gets easier and fwiw, now i feel like i cant give up. to do so would be unfair to the beans ive lost. enjoy your wine, be kind to yourself and give yourself time to recuperate before trying again x

Hello Loveverona
Quite a lot of women find that it gets harder to conceive when they've had one or two children - this can be for a whole host of reasons. If you get chance to see a fertility awareness practitioner then that's a good place to start but unfortunately they are few on the ground - we have two in Edinburgh but don't know of any in England except Zita West's clinic in London and the organsation called Foresight.
One thing you could try and learn is how to observe your cervical mucus and once you know when ' peak' fertility is you then need to know the length of your luteal phase - the time after peak to your start of your next bleed. The BOM Trust in London can teach you this (it's called the Billings Ovulation Method) if you live in that area.
Apart from this things such as stopping caffeine (coffee, tea, chocolate, fizzy drinks and alcohol), proper nutrition e.g. protein with each meal, lots of foods with anti-oxidants in, good supplements such as Biocare Mega EPA 100 and Biocare Ante-Natal Forte, taking good relaxation periods each day (!)and maybe boosting your system with a course of acupuncture and or chinese herbs from a qualified professional could help.

Cheers and good luck.

Hey thanks JulientM, but conceiving doesn't seem to be a problem for me (thankfully!). It's hanging onto the last two. I'm so intune with my body now that I know pretty much exactly when I'm ovulating, so I'm quite confident that that's all OK.

Feeling much better about things this week. I'm sure I was just unlucky. We'll probably give it one more go and if that doesn't work then call it quits. Two beautiful DCs is nothing to be unhappy about!

x

Hi again
Yes - I quite understand - everything I wrote about diet etc also applies to stop miscarrying as well - good luck.

Oh, OK. I'll certainly bear that in mind. Many thanks.