TTC #2 & struggling emotionally

[northessexmama]

We have a daughter who is 2.5 and have just started to try for another as we'd like her to have a sibling. However, I naively thought it would be easier to conceive this time around as I knew what I was doing ( tracking ovulation wise etc ). We're only a couple of months into ttc #2 but I'm already feeling the mental toll & feeling v emotional. I'm about to turn 40 so really feeling the pressure that it's now or never. My husband also doesn't seem as in it as me - he's putting in minimal effort but says he wants another. I had all the same pregnancy symptoms this month & was convinced it was it but period turned up yesterday & I'm feeling more down than I imagined I would. Everyone around me seems to be falling pregnant "on the first go" at the moment & im feeling a little sad and stressed about it all 😥

Hi @northessexmama

It's a horrible lonely journey. I am on cycle 8 TTC number 2, feel AF arriving any day. For the first 6 months I was so stressed over it that it really messed up my cycles (that and behavioural issues with my son which has now calmed down).

Can you go for any tests to try put your mind at ease? I had some baseline blood tests, a scan and an AMH test and that really helped me also.

Oh and I just turned 35 and my son just turned 3. He was conceived first cycle which was a miracle and so unexpected but goes to show sometimes there is no pattern and hopefully just timing and the right one ❤️

Hi @northessexmama. I understand completely. We started trying for our second when our first was one and in the end it took 14 months. I don't say this to dispirit you but just to say that the pressure was immense and there were so many times I didn't think it would happen. The best thing I did was to make time for me - yoga, walking, not beating myself up for drinking wine here and there - and practicing acceptance and a calm frame of mind. I'm not going to pretend it was easy! I was 41 when I fell pregnant and my second son is now almost 5 months. Now that he is here I wouldn't change a second of it.

Hang in there. It just takes time. And that's okay xxx

Thank you this really helps. I guess i just want to know that it will happen at some point. It's hard.

That's what I said to a friend - I don't care when it happens as long as it does happen at some point. There's no way of knowing that of course. Which is what makes it so hard and painful. But I'm sure you have every reason to be hopeful. As pp said, some basic tests can be reassuring - you can get these on the nhs after six months in your case x