Unreasonably jealous and need to rant

[AG1993]

Hi, my husband's friend has just announced he is expecting his first baby. As much as I am happy for them, I am also feeling upset about it. I don't know their circumstances, was it planned or was it an accident but either way, hearing other people's baby news when it hasn't happened for us yet is disheartening. I know, I know, it's unreasonable and I should be happy for them but when you are trying for a baby and people get pregnant before you, it makes you want it even more and hurts so much when it doesn't happen and the whole process has to start again. I'm not a horrible person, I promise haha, just sad that it's not me and my husband making the big announcement. Thanks, just needed a safe place to vent x

Totally understand!! I get so jealous when I see other peoples announcements and healthy births. We've had 4 miscarriages and everytime I seen an announcement online I just mute it until I feel ready to look again. (Obviously if it's a close friend it's different)

I recently had time off work due to the stress and depression of it all, all I see is babies and pregnancy! I'm on sertaline now and feel much better for it.

You can be happy for them but sad for you. X

@midnights0 thank you for replying, Im so sorry to hear about your past losses, over Christmas, I saw multiple people post pregnancy announcements on Facebook and I couldn't handle it so I came off it completely. I understand people wanting to share their news but some people are struggling and it's like a dagger seeing how easy it is for some people. The sadness can come out of nowhere x

Totally understand how you feel, @AG1993, and I think it's totally normal. It took many years and eventually four IVF cycles with donor eggs to have DD and in that time, pregnancy announcements were like a knife through the heart. I put my brave face on and acted thrilled, but it was exhausting. I remember on one occasion having to go on a girls weekend with two friends . . . both of whom were in their second trimester, and the relentless baby chat was excruciating.

Let yourself be angry, sad, upset, hurt, and then put your game face on when necessary. There's every chance it will be you one day, it's just a matter of time

Of course it's hard. Limiting social media has helped me. And also remembering - they aren't getting pregnant to spite you. that's just life. People can be sensitive with sharing news, I would never share on social media, and I would always text someone rather than share in person.

Oh love. I was exactly the same. It's so painful. Your feelings are valid. It's okay.

It's totally normal to feel that way, don't worry! And the closer that person is to you, the harder it is I've found. This is a safe space to vent with LOTS of people who understand so don't worry 💗

Thank you all of you for the support ❤️❤️ x