TTC with one tube and going mad

[BonBon20]

Hi all,

Bit nervous posting but I feel very hormonal and very alone so I thought it was best to reach out. I am 33 and my partner and I first tried for a baby July 2023. We got pregnant the first month but it turned out to be ectopic. I had a laproscopy to remove the pregnancy and my tube. The consultant said that they saw some endometriosis tissue during surgery but nothing to concern her and to just crack on. She said that my other tube looked outwardly healthy (but of course that is just outwardly).

We have been trying for 4 months and I just came on my period. I know that this is probably the hormones talking but every month I have got my period sends me into a spiral.

I am worried about my age, my one tube, endometriosis, never falling pregnant again. Everything. And that is before I even get pregnant and turn to worrying about ectopics and miscarriages.

Has anyone been through something similar? Thank you in advance. x

Hi BonBon20.

Really sorry to hear about about your ectopic and what you're going through. I'm not quite in the same situation but can certainly relate. I am down to one tube due to an abscess, have multiple health issues that can all negatively affect fertility and I recently turned 36 to boot 🙃

Only just started trying to conceive (cycle 2) but can already feel it completely taking over my brain and similarly find myself getting really down about my age/one tube/health issues etc. I'm channeling my energy right now into learning as much as I can about my cycle and constantly reminding myself that conceiving can take time even in the most optimal of situations - which helps me worry a little less on some days and doesn't on others.

No advice to offer really but just wanted to say you're not alone.

@BonBon20 I can relate although I had a missed miscarriage not an ectopic. My period has just arrived and it really affects my mental health as my periods aren't back to normal. I'm now on my 5th cycle and worrying why it's taking so long. I know I should give it more time but don't feel like I have time to waste! My GP has been great and I've had quite a few tests now and an ultrasound next. I think it can just take a while but it's so hard not to worry that something isn't right.

Hi

I have a Unicornuate Uterus ( 2 ovaries, half a womb and 1 tube ) discovered by laparoscopy in the early 2000's. I never thought I would have children but I caught twice first in 2007 and the second in 2012 but both ended in miscarriage.

As I hit 34 I started pining to be a Mum so approached my doctors who referred me for test in my local hospital they referred me to Liverpool Women's ( amazing hospital ) I ended up going down the IVF route, I tried the first round but my womb lining wasn't getting thinner so after investigations they found I had some endometriosis and a polyp in my womb that needed removing, this was done and then had to wait another few months to start again. My first try was unsuccessful but had another one to be implanted at a later date so left myself a year out ( the process of IVF was hard going and in my case I had to endure it twice due to the polyp so I needed a break ) tried again 2014 and low and behold I caught this time and my daughter was born in 2015 :)

Thought I would share my story with you as I for years felt with my condition I wouldn't be able to have children, maybe push for more investigations :)

My sister had 4 more babies after an ectopic left her with only 1 tube.

Hi OP,

I have had 2 ectopic pregnancies (both in same tube, after the second one had my tube removed), I then had a missed miscarriage a few months later (in the right place though!). I was at the point of thinking it wasn’t going to happen the month before I had my missed miscarriage pregnancy. I had a DNC to remove the pregnancy and then conceived my one year old the month after :)

I was feeling pessimistic about the whole thing to be honest. I was constantly looking for a reason/information/something I could do to get pregnant/ how many times to have sex in fertile window to get pregnant. But then it just happened! My tube picked up the egg from the opposite ovary too.

good luck!

Hello! Thank you so so much for all your messages, I had no idea how much sharing the weight would help me mentally. I think being so out of control of a situation is really tough. It feels a bit like everyone I know is pregnant with their second all of a sudden!

Thank you so much for sharing your success stories, it’s helped immensely. And@13lucy @ThingsLineUp I’ve got absolutely everything crossed for you - please do keep me updated if you like, would like to know how are you especially with any ultrasound results x

Hello! Thank you so so much for all your messages, I had no idea how much sharing the weight would help me mentally. I think being so out of control of a situation is really tough. It feels a bit like everyone I know is pregnant with their second all of a sudden!

Thank you so much for sharing your success stories, it’s helped immensely. And@13lucy @ThingsLineUp I’ve got absolutely everything crossed for you - please do keep me updated if you like, would like to know how are you especially with any ultrasound results x