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Anyone else 'on a break' from TTC to avoid a Dec/Jan baby?

28 replies

lennied · 23/03/2008 21:07

We had DD1 on Dec 28 2006 and are planning no. 2 - only been trying a couple of months but debating having a break until May to avoid another December baby (DH has a Dec bday aswell as DD!). Interested to see if anyone else is 'on a break'? I'm due to ov in next few days and am veering towards the sod it lets get pg side of things right now .

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jaype · 23/03/2008 22:06

Not going to try this cycle (according to dh, anyway) and maybe next as my due date would be Dec 24th - my brother has 27th Dec as a birthday and has always hated it. Both my children have late Jan birthdays so might have to sit out the next cycle as well...

BigTeuchLittleTeuch · 23/03/2008 22:06

Well...DS1 was due in feb but came just after new year

Best laid plans and all that!!

It depends on how long yuo have been trying and if you are happy to wait. I have to say I would think it was 'wasting opportunities' for me

But I am known for my ttc-bullying on other threads so perhaps don't pay me any attention...

sorkycake · 23/03/2008 22:12

I'm going for it this month regardless

artichokes · 23/03/2008 22:15

We are TTC and I have other factors that I consider more important than whether my next baby's b'day might coincide with Christmas.

Firstly, you can never be sure you will get pregnant again. If TTC proves a long process I would kick myself for delaying it after I had decided it was time to start.

Secondly, I know I don't want too big an age gap between DD and her sibling. And to me that age gap, and their relationship, is more important.

Thirdly, DD is an August baby and will be the youngest in her class. That is of some concern so avoiding an August baby might worry we more. Also being heavily pregnant in July/August was horrible and I think it may have contributed to my very high BP and subsequent complications.

So for those reasons we are not having a break from TTC. Also DH has a late Dec birthday and he reckons that he only cared between the ages of about 7 and 14. To me seven years of my child being mildly annoyed about its birthdate is not too worrying a prospect!

amytheearwaxbanisher · 23/03/2008 22:31

i gave thought to it but i had ds a month early so it might happen again if i was due in december i might have the baby in november and if i stop trying and started again for a febuary baby might be born in december anyway,at this stage i wouldnt care when i was due just want another baby!

AnotherFineMess · 23/03/2008 22:41

I have 2 January babies and it's great! If cash is an issue you can buy birthday presents in the sales, their birthdays definitely brighten up the worst month of the year and you can ask for toys for Christmas, clothes for birthdays etc which keeps you stocked up through the year.

Being heavily pregnant over Christmas is lovely too, you get out of all the cooking/washing up, are comfortably cool while everyone else is dithering and altohugh you can't have alcohol or smelly cheese, you can have loads of everything else. I'd say go for it!

amytheearwaxbanisher · 23/03/2008 22:51

it would probably be nice to go through the last[fat,waddly and uncomfortable]month or two in the winter i had ds in august and the summer heat had me half killed waddling home from work

princessosyth · 23/03/2008 22:53

Yes! . Don't want to be in hospital on Christmas day when ds will be opening his presents. PFB syndrome.

barbamama · 23/03/2008 22:59

My dc1 is a christmas baby after a March conception and I would def give it a rest if trying during March again - though dc2 came along at a different time of year so haven't had to make the decision yet. I wouldn't be devastated if it happenned but being in hospital over Xmas / NY was a nightmare and I find his BD, parties etc just after xmas exhausting. All pales into insignifcance compared to getting pg and having a healthy baby etc but it really is not ideal.

scully · 23/03/2008 23:54

dd2 was born on Xmas Day, 8 days late I do feel sorry for her, having such a crap b'day. I was hoping she would come early like her sister and be an early Dec baby, but that wasn't to be
On the plus side, there were only 7 babies born on her day, she was the last one, so we had the staff all to ourselves, and nothing was too much trouble.
I am currently pregnant with no.3, due in Nov and had I not fallen pregnant in Feb I wasn't sure if we would have tried in March.
But as this pregnancy is not going to plan and we find out this Thurs if it viable or not, tbh we will be trying again straight away if I do m/c. After 2 m/c in the last 6mths, sod the due date, I would just like a healthy baby
Good luck to those who are trying, Xmas babies are special

amytheearwaxbanisher · 23/03/2008 23:59

scully sorry to hear that hope your beanie is viable

scully · 24/03/2008 00:04

Thx Amy, you're up late? I'm in Australia, so am always posting when most other people are sleeping

barbamama · 24/03/2008 00:08

Good luck scully!

amytheearwaxbanisher · 24/03/2008 00:13

im always awake ds is 2.7 years old so i enjoy a bit of quite me time at night when dh is in workeverything crossed for thursday for you i cant imagine how hard the waiting is for you

elkiedee · 24/03/2008 00:27

I haven't started ttc again but am planning to any minute, but it has just occurred to me that for me having a December baby would be a bit of a problem. I was 37 almost 38 when my 1st baby was born last May - he was due in April and was late which I expected - but at 40 + 6 I was told I should be induced - as the following Monday when I would been 40 + 13 was a bank holiday I was booked in for Wednesday night for induction Thursday. I had a long labour too. If all this happens again, which I fear it might if I get that far, I really don't want to be induced just before Christmas (or just before New Year).

I thought April/May was a good time to have a baby but I can't wait until July to try ttc again, and after my 39th birthday in June (gulp), though I would be more than happy if that's how it all worked out.

amytheearwaxbanisher · 24/03/2008 00:30

elkiedee just behave like a bunny and what will be will be

scully · 24/03/2008 00:42

I agree Amy, go for it Elkiedee and see what happens. If your age is worrying you I wouldn't not try for certain months because of the due date. Babies come late and early so the month is only a rough guide anyway
If my latest pregnancy doesn't work out, my age is also at the back of my mind (37), another reason we won't be delaying ttc.
Good luck deciding what to do, and maybe just practice in the meantime

amytheearwaxbanisher · 24/03/2008 01:21

hope it works out for you scully why do you think this one wont if you dont mind me asking

scully · 24/03/2008 04:19

Had a scan week before last and the scan had pregnancy at about 1.5wks earlier than my dates. So only the sack could be seen, which is right for 5-6wks but not 7wks onwards. Also my hcg levels weren't doubling (or coming close to doubling) every 2-3 days like they should be. Haven't had a blood test since last Monday though so don't know what they have been doing in the past week.
So signs that things aren't right, but it's all maybe's until I have another scan later this week. I should be somewhere between 7 and 8.5wks by then so the scan should be able to see more than just the sack, if the pregnancy is progressing.

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lennied · 24/03/2008 09:12

Good luck Scully.

I was in hospital having DD1 from 5am 25th Dec - 2pm 29th Dec - wouldn't be ideal again if no. 2 decided to appear at the same time as this xmas will prob be the first that DD1 appreciates. Plus we pretty much missed her first birthday because of unforseen events, desperately don't want to miss her second. It's a hard one though, since this might be the month and like artichokes I don't want too big a gap.

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Flibbertyjibbet · 24/03/2008 09:16

But having a christmas baby got me out of going to Inlaws for xmas!!!
Isn't that a good enough reason for wanting one born late december?????
You get the babies you are meant to have, when they decide to come along.
How would you feel if you stopped trying for 2 months then nothing happened for ages - you would be wondering whether you missed your 'month'.

jaype · 24/03/2008 16:16

"How would you feel if you stopped trying for 2 months then nothing happened for ages - you would be wondering whether you missed your 'month'."

Good point. Will have to work on dh. TBH all I want is another healthy baby and they'll all have to get over it! Let's face it, getting pg hasn't been like the last times (ie in any way easy!) so why should the pregnancy be the same? My sis had 3 and while the first two were bang on time in arriving the third was a month early. Sod it! It's his birthday around my CD11 so I'm going to ply him with lots of sparking wine if all else fails... Have ordered a mega expensive Clearblue fertility monitor (mainly to reassure me that I am still capable of ovulating after the ebay cheapies showed nothing last month) so sods law hopefully says I'll conceive before I get the chance to use it. crosses fingers really tightly

Flibbertyjibbet · 24/03/2008 23:39

Good luck!
I might have my two and not want any more but we had a long time of trying... and ds1 only came after we had given up!
So if you convince yourself this mnth that you DON'T want to get pg.....

sorkycake · 25/03/2008 08:42

If you give birth at home, won't that make the event even more special around the festivities

I'm going for a December baby by virtue of the fact that if I conceive this month it will be born then.

I'll be giving birth at home again, touch wood, and can't imagine anything more lovely than everywhere decked out and my baby being born into an already quite exciting part of the year!

They come when they come

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lennied · 25/03/2008 10:24

I would love to give birth at home sortycake but I live 45 minutes from the nearest hospital and 20 minutes from the nearest ambulance station so it is unlikley to happen. I know I could fight for it but I'm not sure I would be comfortable with knowing help was so far away, esp. as there were complications with DD1s birth.

Well anyway, looks like my 'break' is over , what will be will be .

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