Hello,
A bit of background about me. When I was 27 years old, I found out I was a carrier of BRCA1 (Angelina Jolie gene) which means each year I get an MRI and eventually will have a mastectomy and will have my overies removed. I decided that I wanted to have my kids, breastfeed and then do all of these preventative measures.
I TTC and it took me 6 cycles to get pregnant. We had been using barrier method and so I was not taking contraception beforehand. We tried every single day. I then lost my baby at 33 weeks pregnant.
I TTC again, had sex once or twice a week and got pregnant on the 2nd cycle. My daughter is now 8 months old.
I'm now 30 and waiting for my MRI which will be in two months, and then will TTC again. I am terrified.
I am not as healthy as I was, two childbirths a year apart, grief and motherhood destroying my healthy lifestyle and I can't try now because I have to wait for my MRI appointment. All the mums around me sharing their "I got pregnant in one month, and got to take my healthy firstborn home" really messes with me sometimes (not their fault of course).
I quite despise my body sometimes. A dodgy gene and my firstborn passed away. I'm throwing myself a right pity party here. I am lucky - I have a therapist I see twice a week, an amazing support network and I am LOVING raising my daughter.
But what if I can't get pregnant again? Or maintain a pregnancy? I am terrified of it.
I just want to give my daughter a living sibling as she is unlikely to have any cousins and then never think about pregnancy again!
It took me 6 months the first time round. And the second time round I can't help but think it was because I still had all those pregnant hormones flowing around my body.
So long story short, is there anyone out there where it took them 6 months to concieve? Despite trying everyday? In their 20's? Is it normal or should I go to doctors?
Just need some reassurence or advice.
Many thanks in advance!