To take a break?

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Have just taken a test at 10DPO and not even a hint of a line 😞 had a meltdown afterwards.

I am so emotionally drained. Husband has suggested taking a break, which I think I need but I am worried about wasting precious time, also I know my cycle so well that I will know when I'm in my fertile period so how can I possibly just ‘forget’ to not try for one month? Has anyone taken a break while TTC and has this helped?

First time I conceived was the 1st cycle I didn't obsess and get stressed over the day I ovulated. I knew roughly when fertile window was but the less stressed approach I felt helped both of us relax. Whether that's why we conceived I don't know but hey why not give it a go. You could book a trip away or book a date night around fertile window with no expectations and see what happens?

@Sunnydays12340987 thanks for replying. A lot of people have said a similar thing so I think there must be some truth in it. Think I will do it

I took a break and got pregnant. I didn’t open my app, I still had a rough idea of when ovulation would be, but I forgot when my period was due and was a surprise when I started to feel nauseous. Turns out I was 5 days late for my period.

We used the lead up to Christmas as a break (from August to Jan), and I got pregnant in the first month. Had previously been trying for years with three miscarriages.

How old are you and how long have you been ttc
Is this number 1?

Ttc can be completely all consuming. I know that!!! I would recommend a break. Stay away from the apps still take your vits/prenatals hide the opks and the hcgs,

Have sex when you want it!

Good luck!

I can totally relate to this. It's so stressful and easy to feel like it's taking over your life.

I was TTC for over a year before I fell pregnant with my first and the cycle I fell pregnant I still tracked ovulation but I did a fitness bootcamp which took my mind off of TTC. It was probably coincidence to be honest but I felt better for it almost immediately.

I'm now TTC again. I've been trying since last summer, I had a MC early doors and then took a little break. I'm not sure if this is helpful but this cycle I have held off testing early and feel loads better for it. I'm just trying to assume nothing is happening until my period is late. We'll see how long that lasts though. One cycle doesn't break the habit of a lifetime 😂

Keep your chin up and take care of yourself. TTC is an absolute mind f*

It depends on your age and how long you've been trying. I do think it could be worth a go, why not book a trip over your fertile time but don't do any tests/tracking. At the end of the day, you can only get pregnant those few days, so it makes sense not to disregard it.

We tried for 2 years the month we 'gave up' trying as we were starting IVF is the month we conceived we had also just gone on holidays and I drank alcohol and enjoyed food. I let go of thinking of every little thing and trying to do it all right . I'd book a nice long weekend or week away and just enjoy yourself and try take a break and let yourself relax x

it’s so hard isn’t it, I remember this exact predicament.

How old are and how long have you been trying?

If you’ve got plenty of time, and have no reason to think there’s anything wrong, then yes, take a break. We had been trying ten months, and at age 31, we took a break - hey presto, we conceived!

But, if you’re late 30s and been trying 12 months+ then I’d probably crack on with investigating whether there might be a problem.

Best of luck to you

@Meshka Thank you.

I'm coming up to mid thirties and we are trying for our second. We got pregnant first time last summer but that ended in an early miscarriage, so it's been nearly 9 months now. I am getting more and more frustrated with each cycle, it's a vicious circle.

I'm taking Vit D, Folic Acid and B12 now. I took Pregnacare for one month but it caused my period to be late so chucked them away. Have also cut down on caffeine and don't drink alcohol. Really not sure what else to do at this point other than "relax" which is pretty hard to do🙄

@mrspeanutbutter Thank you and sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I also had one at the beginning of our TTC journey. I would be weeks away from giving birth now which is why I think I've been so emotional this month!