Should I try?????

[lyndyloo]

For various reasons I had my DD late in life. I was 42 when I conceived after only 3 months of trying. Unfortunately I had a missed m/c but got pg again within a month and went on to have my gorgeus daughter who is now coming up to 2.

I have started to feel broody again and have very mixed feelings about dd being an only. TBH actually broody doesn't describe it, more a longing for a second child which I feel profoundly. I am nearly 45 so chances are I might not be able to get pg but tbh I think I am still fertile. I did everything last time - OPKs, CM, temping etc and am really in touch with my cycles and everything seems to be working OK. I really feel I could get pg if I tried again.

Trouble is I would be worried about mc and god forbid still birth, never mind disability. Of course I had those worries with dd but refused to think about them. I think I would be more stressed about these issues 2nd time around.

Do you think I'm mad to even try?

Not at all - If you didn't try for fear of what could go wrong, would you spend the rest of your life wondering what might have been, and wishing you at least given it a shot ? I say go for it !

Go for it woman!!!

I'd say go for it too, otherwise you'll always be thinking what if....

Lyndyloo

Unfortunately there is a lot of difference fertility wise between 42 and 45 and generally speaking fertility does decline after 35. You likely know that already.

Forget about charting and such like this time around, I would now consider having a blood test done to see what your hormone levels are like. You need to pay particular attention to your FSH level. Your overall egg quality will be an important factor as well as whether you are actually ovulating every month or not (it is possible to have periods without ovulating).

I think attila's idea is great. If it was me though, I would just relax and see what happens while you are waiting for your blood test. You never know, the Easter bunny might be kind and leave you a little fertilised egg.

hello I like all these positive messages ! I had first baby at 41 am now 43 just had mc and still feeling traumatised but worry will regret for ever if don t try one more time as fertility ok. Good luck ....a woman of 57 has become pregnant (newspaper headline today) so we are spring chicks really !!!

Thats exactly it Pearl, as you get older you are at more risk of having problems, and I've had my fair share.

I'm really glad we kept going as our last try at having a baby worked for us and we now have a lovely baby to go with DS.

MC is awful though, so hugs to you both. This as my last try as I don't think I could have coped with anymore problems.

Thanks ladies. Still mulling it over tbh.

Actually Atilla - these tests, can you buy and do it yourself. Had a FSH test a while back and was fine.

Also - anyone know if the fact that my periods are regular, having the appropriate changes in ewcm and cervical position are signs I am still fertile. Or could I still be having these signs and eggs not up to much or something?

unfortunately as we get older ( i have just turned 42) our bodies have to work that much harder to release an egg every cycle. a dy3 FSH test should tell you. mybest advice would be to go to your gynae and have a fertility check up. lots of blood tests.

good luck! i am ttc #2 at 42.