Losing hope

[rosiettc]

Hi everyone. I’m starting to lose hope.
I found out I was pregnant in March last year and unfortunately it ended with blighted ovum a week before my 14 week scan which would have been my first scan. I miscarried myself without D&C or tablets. Me and my partner were devastated to say the least. Our baby was meant to be due 21st of December, so Christmas was really tough for us 😔
We have been trying ever since our miscarriage and have been using clear blue digital ovulation tests as well as tracking through Flo app. I’ve been getting positive peak tests every month but not this month. My tests aren’t even telling me I’m fertile which they have been every other month. I know if I’m pregnant because I had one day of fairly heavy bleeding followed with two days of light bleeding assuming that was my period. I’m just wondering if anyone would know why I’m not even getting a flashing smiley face on my tests this month? Any advise or even any successful rainbow baby 🌈 stories would really help right now. Hope you’re all well 💙💗

Hi @rosiettc,

I am so sorry for your loss 🤍 what a rough time you have had.

Has your cycle been fairly regular since your miscarriage? Assuming so since you have been having positive ovulation tests until now. I’m not an expert by any manner of means but from my own research I think it can be normal to not ovulate every cycle. If you have been TTC since your miscarriage it might be worth contacting your Gp for at least some blood tests etc. I’ve followed a lot of posts on here that it has taken a bit of time to fall pregnant again after a loss, frustrating I know 😞 the whole process of TTC is mentally draining and I can only imagine how much more difficult it is after miscarriage. However there has been lots of success stories so don’t give up. I would continue to DTD every other day despite not having a positive ovulation test. And it might be worth ruling out that you aren’t pregnant with a preg test.

xx

Thank you for your kind words. It really is so draining, so I think I will do a pregnancy test tomorrow and if negative I will contact my GP on Monday just to rule as much out as possible. I tend not to talk to my partner about it, although he's very supportive and was amazing through the miscarriage he is definitely the more "stop worrying it'll happen when it happens" type. He already has a little boy from a previous relationship, so in some ways I think it's easier for him not to be concerned, but for me being a mum is something I've always wanted and as much as I love his little boy I do find it really hard at the same time. Wanting to be pregnant so much but also being terrified I'll have another unsuccessful pregnancy. Then there's the worry I may not ever have a successful pregnancy. I try not to get into my own head about it all but it can be so hard not to. Thank you so much for your advise xx

And yea my cycles have been very regular since. Sorry forgot to mention that xx

@rosiettc you're welcome 💖.

I think definitely test just to be sure and it won’t do any harm contacting your Gp for some routine tests at least. Are you taking any supplements?

Oh I understand, I think just even the mindset is very different between male and females when it comes to TTC. We obsess over everything even when trying not to!! Keep trying to think positively, you have been pregnant so your time will come again and I’m sure successful 💖.

I’ve been TTC since august time, but would say have really only focused properly over the last few cycles, tracking ovulation etc. It becomes a minefield and so easy to let it take over your life! Time really just stands still! I find some of these forums helpful but equally overwhelming.

hopefully we will get there, just a matter of time 💖 xx

I'm currently working really hard on my diet, taking high strength multivitamins, folic acid and a supplement called maca root. My mum actually put me onto maca root because I've been struggling quite badly with hormonal acne since being pregnant and miscarrying. She mentioned it can help with balancing certain hormones. (Doesn't seem to be helping so far 😂) in all honesty I'm confused on what vitamins I should be taking. When you look it up or ask different people you get so many different options and opinions.
A friend of mine has a 5 year old little boy but has unfortunately suffered numerous miscarriages since and still hasn't had any answers to why, but she mentioned "milk thistle" but I'm trying my best not to take too many things that I don't understand to prevent doing more harm then good.
It's all such a minefield like you say. My periods have been so completely regular since my miscarriage so I'm struggling to understand what's happening with my body now.
I am holding onto the fact that I managed to get pregnant before and make that somewhat of a positive thing despite it not being a successful pregnancy. Trying to think positively even when it feels impossible.
We will get there one day 💙💗

I'm so sorry for your loss, that must have been so difficult for you. I had a chemical earlier this month and am now waiting to ovulate again with no luck so far, and I'm usually like clockwork.

However, last month I was using both CB digital monitors and neither of them showed a positive. I ended up testing 20 days in a row. It came up 'High' on the monitor, and never ever had a flashing smiley on the tracker. I clearly did ovulate though, because I was pregnant by January and shocked to find out.

I wonder if my surge was just not as strong last month, or if I ovulate later than expected, or if the tests I took (all in the morning) just weren't the optimum time to test. I'm sorry I can't say which it was, but I can definitely say that just because the CB tracker didn't pick it up doesn't mean you didn't ovulate.

I'm CD15 now and still waiting to ovulate with no surge in sight. This wait it honestly worst that the TTW for me.

Good luck and do check in with your test results if you do feel like doing a test! 🤞

Thank you and I'm sorry about your chemical 😔 it is so heart breaking, but Im praying we all have our little miracles in the end 💗💙🌈
I've never actually used this app before. I've used other apps, but I have never felt better after any discussion/opinions/advice. This time you've both made me feel so much more at ease than anyone else I've spoken to, so thank you both so much for your responses. Sending baby dust to you both ✨
I will respond to you both again to find out if either of you have had any success. I love finding out when other women have managed to achieve something that sometimes feels impossible. Even if unsuccessful I'd love to know how you're both getting on. Good luck and hopefully next time we speak you will be telling me if your miracle is a boy or girl 💙💗

So sorry for your everything you have been through. I don't know if you have been using it but I found the concept fertility lubricant effective both times.
Wishing you all the best.

Hi Op, I've my own losses too. 2 miscarriages and A very serious one last three months ago. Lost my twin sons at 29 weeks, one stillborn , the other passed 4 days later. It takes time for your body to regulate after loss.

Are you only using clearblue opk. I use easy@home as well and find them very good. You can get them on amazon. Clearblue aren't always great but with easy@home you can see line progression as you can upload to an app called premom

Also i did get pregnant with my twins after my two losses, so don't despair. Even though I lost my twins at the very end, they were perfect babies. Unfortunately a very rare complication occurred. I feel it will happen for you. Definitely get easy@home