TTC for 2nd child

[mummyb90]

Hiya my names Sophie I'm 28 and married with a beautiful 5 year old boy whose honestly the apple of my eye, I'm here because I used a group similar when I was trying to conceive my little boy and it helped massively abit of background before my son we was trying for a year and had 3 misscarriages all down to hearbeat not being there when I had my son I had GD and ended up going 2 weeks over term was in slow labour for 7 days ended in an infection and a c section and me with sepsis which as you can imagine has now created some sort of trauma for our next child, but I've finally decided it's time for our last child and know I'll opt for a planned section to avoid the trauma again although the c section part is the scary part we got pregnant by accident in June and we was over the moon and thought this is meant to be we was using protection and it still happened but unfortunately the same day we found out was the same day I started bleeding what a suprise! This created even more fear for me so now I am currently on a weightloss journey whilst trying to conceive I would love to know if there is anyone on a similar journey to me and anyone whose experienced a planned section who could shed some light and comfort on the situation x

Hi 👋 gosh you have been through a lot! To have a positive and then to start bleeding later that day must have been heartbreaking.

We are currently trying for baby no.2 too. My daughter is 4 (5 in April) and she was a lovely surprise baby so ttc is somewhat new to me. Currently 3dpo on cycle 1, feeling cautiously optimistic!

I had a failed induction last time so had to have a somewhat planned c section. It was actually a very positive experience. All the staff were very chilled, they had the radio playing and I remember what song was on when they lifted her over the curtain. I was also well rested beforehand. I imagine an emergency section would be a lot more stressful so hopefully next time around you can have a much more relaxed experience!

Hope you conceive soon and it all goes smoothly for you!

Hey!! Nice to meet a fellow mummy on the trying to conceive path! It seems so common now days doesn't it for a c section I was somewhat expecting it to happen but it saved my babies life and the recovery wasn't all that bad! But I was observed in hospitial for 7 days I know this time with a planned ill be home by the next day so not sure how different it will be but I know it's temporary for something so precious! Ooh how precious they grow up so quickly don't they? I'll keep everything crossed for you did you find it scary making the decision to try for baby number 2? I'm due ovulation on Saturday not expecting anything this time round but fingers crossed! It was absolutely awful almost felt like torture as it was a shock pregnancy and then got ripped away almost instantly hoping we don't have to experience that ever again! X

So sorry for what you’ve been through, you must be such a strong woman.

My first labour/birth wasn’t as traumatising as yours I imagine but it did leave some lingering ptsd for some time. I was in labour for 3 days, I had a high temp, couldn’t stop vomiting after every contraction and ended up needing an emergency c section. We were then kept in for 3 days as they suspected my son had an infection (it turned out he didn’t) and the aftercare was quite honestly shocking. I was left having to beg for pain meds, moved beds 3 times, had endless panic attacks and begged for my partner to stay one night as it was all too much.

Anyway 3 years and 9 months later I had a planned c section with my second and the whole thing was so calm and went so smoothly. I got to the hospital at 7:30am and had my son at 10am! Couldn’t believe how quick the whole thing was. Everybody in the theatre was so incredibly lovely. Breastfeeding was easier the second time, I only stayed for one night in hospital and had my own private room. My partner couldn’t stay but I felt more on top of things this time knowing it was just one night and I felt more experienced the second time around.

I will say despite it being a different hospital to where I had my first the aftercare was shocking again, not quite as bad but it really does seem like there is some stigma attached to mothers who’ve had c sections. The midwives treated me like I hadn’t just had major abdominal surgery. I was legitimately laughed at at one point when I asked for some help, I cried afterwards. They kept my catheter in for 24 hours, nobody helped me get up out of bed so I could move about for 24 hours!!! Nobody helped change my pad, my wee bag always looked like it was fit to burst.

So whilst less traumatising in the sense that the c section, birth etc was all amazing but the aftercare was just shit again. I know that’s not the case for some people I just seem to have gotten very unlucky.

I am now pregnant with my third and will be going through it all again, I’m scared but I KNOW I can get through it, it’s all very much worth it ❤️ Best of luck to you!! ✨

Oh my word that sounds awful I'm so sorry you experienced that my husband was able to stay with me but he was on the floor and had to leave me after 2 days to go back to work being self employed and unable to lose money it was terrifying I also experienced something similar when I was alone I couldn't get up and needed to make my son a bottle and the nurse point blank refused to help me get to the end of the corridor told me I needed to get up and get moving I sat in there sobbing I was alone first time mum feeling helpless, luckily I have the best mum and she came and stayed with me for the last 3 nights and helped me do everything I hope you have the most amazing experience third time around thank you for sharing your experience it's made me feel more confident how did you find the epidural? That's also a fear of mine I obviously had it before but I was so done with the pain I didn't even think about it! X