TTC after abortion

[Wanderingthroughparenthood]

I’m currently on month one of TTC
i currently have a 4 year old & I also had an abortion june 22. This was a tough but necessary decision in my life at this time. Now I’m more settled and after a lot of backwards and forwards of if I did want a second child we’ve decided to try.
one month and I already find the full process so consuming and I am filled with so much want. I have never regretted my decision to have an abortion but I can’t help now but feel guilt that I now want a baby so badly and dread it may not happen as easy post abortion. I wouldn’t blame the world if I didn’t fall pregnant, almost like it would be deserved for the decision I made in 2022.
i know there is no answer, I’m just venting and putting my feelings out in the ether. Has anyone else been in a similar situation?
im due to ovulate tomorrow and know the TTW will feel a lifetime. I can’t imagine how difficult this journey is for those who have been on the path for a long time.

You're naturally experiencing guilt / remorse over termination, but it's irrational to expect punishment for it. It's not a pleasant experience, especially for those who envision having (more) children in the future.

But ultimately you had your reasons based on your circumstances. It's unfortunate, but important to make peace with the decision and don't look back.

It's very likely given your history that you will have no problems TTC, when you are ready. Good luck

You are no less deserving of a baby now just because you had a termination. It's a huge decision and no one takes it lightly when going through it.

I had a termination and then got pregnant a year later so I don't think it will affect your chances.

Good luck I hope you get your bfp soon

@Wanderingthroughparenthood hey lovely.

my heart goes out to you and I welled up reading your post as it resonates with me deeply.

i too had an abortion June 2022. I got pregnant with the copper coil in place. I long for a baby and although I deeply wanted one, the timing was not right for a number of reasons.

i hope to TTC from next month so I’m right here on this journey with you 💝

I didnt want to read and run - it’s not happened to me personally but I did want to say, you should not beat yourself up about what happened. I’m fairly certain it will have no bearing on what happens next. You made the best decision for you at the time. I can imagine the pain you went through at the time, please let yourself let that go. Sending you a big virtual cuddle 🩷 have a cry, a long old chat to a good friend with some chocs and wine and try and close off that chapter and open this new one.

I have got friends who conceived a couple of years after terminating and my aunt did too.

You’ve got a support network here xx