To be cheeky to ask how old you were when you had your kids? And age gaps?

[ecossegirl91]

I have one child currently, almost 15m old. Not an easy baby by any means - very bad reflux, very unsettled, kinda grumpy even now 😂 but delightful when he wants to be and still not sleeping through consistently! He was conceived and born when I was 31, very luckily on the first go after coming off the pill (which I’m now back on).

im Fairly certain a second is on the cards, not right now, probably with a 3 year gap if I had total control which of course I don’t because who knows if it’ll even happen for me, nothing is certain! I’ve just turned 33 and first born will turn 2 in the autumn.

not sure whether to bite the bullet and try when they turn 2 - that would be a min age gap of like 2y 8m or so if it happened straight away.

what did other people do? How long? What age etc?

22 with first
27 with second

31, 4 minute age gap.

I was 29 then 32, there's 3 years and 3 weeks between them. We planned a 3 year gap and were very fortunate to conceive first month of trying the first time and second month the second time. Eldest was conceived on honeymoon!

I had mine when I was 39.

21 minutes between the first two (twins).
18 months between the first two and my third.
2 years between third and fourth, which was more than I wanted.

Personally I find it much easier when they are closer together. You are at the same stage for everything so there is no conflict over holidays, days out etc. After school clubs the first 3 all did the same thing (same class for dancing, swimming, scouts etc.
All of them developed resilient and flexible personalities and were good at sharing, caring and taking turns. They all had to learn to work together, help out and that everyone’s needs were valid but they couldn’t always have their own way.

30, and 33. There is exactly 2.5 years between my two. I’ve found it a good gap. They are now 9 and 11 and still play together nicely most of the time. It’s worked well for us. I didn’t want to leave it too long between as I just thought get on with the sleepless nights and being super poor with child care costs.

28.75 years old.

Second is due when I'll be 30.8.

2 year 2month age gap. Get the the pain and suffering out of the way imo. Plus clothes, still remembering how to do things, playful interactions bergen siblings etc. Down to individual preferences.

22 - 1st
Just shy of 24 - 2nd
26 - 3rd

22.5
24
25
27
37

I was 32 when I had DC1. DC2 was a delightful surprise 23 months later (DH had chemo after DC1 was born and we didn’t think he was still fertile!)

The smallish gap was rough at first but they’re 13 and 11 now and really close, so it was worth it.

I had first daughter at 17 and second at 28, same dad. First daughter had her children at 34 and 38. Second daughter had hers at 26 and 29.

I was 30, then 40 then 45. The age gaps work for us 🤷🏻‍♀️.

I had my first exactly a month before my 40th. I've just found out I'm
pregnant - surprise 🥳 So this one will come when I'm 44. So a 4 year difference, which is great.

I was 27 when I got pregnant with my first, had him at 28. I was a month of 31 when I had my second and 33 when I had my third. Age gaps are 2 years 8 months and 2 years and 10 months. Exactly 5 and a half years to the very day between oldest and youngest.

21 with my first, I split up with her dad a few months after she was born. I stayed single till she was 6 and then met my DP we started trying at 30 for number two spurred on by my consultant as I hadn't been well since my first was born and the clock was ticking due to already declining fertility down to illness but things didn't work out exactly how we had planned. I'm now 33 and finally have a 3 week old so just over 11 year age gap.

I was 26 and 28, with a 21 month gap. We said that we would start trying for a second when our eldest turned 1 as we wanted a small gap - I was lucky enough to fall pregnant in the first month of trying!

34, 36, 39. 2 years ish between them. Conceived easily every time.

33.5 with first, 26 months until second, but miscarriage in between (where baby would have arrived at 23 months).

33 when I had my first and 34 when I had my second.

16 months apart!

Baby 1 - 30
baby 2 - 32
baby 3- 36
babies 4&5 38

Also first try on both. Very lucky.

31 when DD was born. 33 when DS was born. 1y 9m between them (not planned but just how it happened!)

First year was brutal, but it’s getting so much better now youngest is nearly 3. I’d say go for it - nice to feel like I’m done (probably) but that we have the option for number 3 if we win the lottery!

25 when I had my first, currently 28 and due with our second in feb. There will be almost exactly 4 years between them.

Would like to have had a slightly smaller gap but unfortunately miscarriaged twice so it didn't happen as soon as we wanted.

Had first DD at 25, second DD at 27, and third DS at 34 we'd always wanted a third and I didn't want any after I turned 35 so thought fuck it!

The 2 year age gap is great when they are babies and young kids - causing a few issues now the eldest is 10 and wanting to be a bit more grownup where the younger one is quite a "young" 7 and wants her to play with her all the time.

The almost 10 year and 7 year age gap is great because I basically have two extra helpers!

My son was born 5 days after I turned 25. He’s only 6 months old so I don’t have any other children yet. I hope to have at least one more in about 2 years but we’ll see how it goes.