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Are you ever ready for another

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Sassil · 17/03/2008 11:55

Can anyone tell me if they felt ready for another child. My DD is 22 months and i have been considering trying to conceive again since last september but still haven't felt that ready. Will i ever or do i just need to go for it??????????

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mad4mybaby · 17/03/2008 13:03

IMO no idont think so but im sure people will tell you THEY were! My ds is 20 months and we started ttc 2 months ago and after 1 BD i was like oh no what have i done i cant cope with 2!!! but now im just going with the flow and have decided i will deal with whatever it throws at me! If you have your heart set on 2 (like me) i would say go for it because you dont want to get another 5 years down the line and regret it..

RuthChan · 17/03/2008 13:08

My DD is now 1.4 and I have to say that, yes, I do feel ready for number 2.
My logical side tells me that I must be insane to want another when I have my hands full enough already, but I also know that I want them about 2 years apart, so I need to be getting on with it.
I have been surprised to find that my natural urges have been as strong this time as they were before DD was conceived.
Maybe if you don't feel ready, you should wait a bit longer.

fleximum · 17/03/2008 13:29

There are 18 months between my 2. Second one was unplanned and I spent a lot of the pregnancy worried I wouldn't cope and feeling guilty for not wanting him so soon. Now he's here (youngest is 7 months) it's fine but incredibly hard work with 2 so small. I would suggest you wait until you really feel ready as 2 are definitely more than double the work!

joyfulspike · 17/03/2008 20:37

I know exactly what you mean sassil, I think about no 2 and dh and I talk about it, and talk and talk and somehow we never really agree..... ds is 27m now, I don't want a huge gap ... if we ever make up our minds! Maybe we should hold hands and just go for it??

ellenjames · 17/03/2008 21:00

i planned to have my dcs close together (14 months) for loads of diff reasons and wouldn't ever change it but everyone is different! I thought i would have them close together so i can have a career sooner( am 25 now). But i am really broody now and really want another one, can't convince dh yet! ds is 18 months and a real handful but i love it! it certainly isnt boring!

MrsMangel · 17/03/2008 21:17

I thought I was ready. Always hoped for a 2 year gap and DDS now 16 months. Loads of people I know have been announcing second baby on the way and was feeling all broody and slightly jealous. Fondly remembering stroking my bump. And there's a couple of litte tiny babies around making me all goo-ey and how lovely to have a little bundle snuggle into my neck and go to sleep (rather than poke me up the nose and wriggle off to go do something better).

So started ttc a couple of months ago, and suddenly got a bfp this month. OMG, I am shitting it. Have remembered I felt awful for ages when I was pregnant. Terrified about the birth. Feel guilty about what DS will make of a little baby stealing the limelight. WOrk just got interesting and not ready to leave again etc etc. Suddenly don't feel ready at all.

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Sassil · 18/03/2008 13:01

Thanks guys for all your messages, i think i just keep putting it off and putting it off but maybe if i just go for it and if it happens i'll have to deal with it. Am very broody but probably just scared!!!! Don't want too big an age gap, maybe i'm just being selfish cause i love my sleep at night, can't imagine going back to sleepless times.

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mad4mybaby · 18/03/2008 13:28

sas, i think you sound like th sort of person (like me) that will be scared no matter how long you wait. I got pg with ds oct 2005 and had come off the pill around feb that year and suddenly panicked 'oh no i cant have a baby' and i wish i had just gone with my NATURAL instincts and not my brain going override! If you have that URGE to have a baby it will never go until you have satisfied it(oh-er!) i really think you should go for it and make your family complete. You never know you may take a while to get pg and wish you'd started earlier. As long as you have family and fiends for support (and MN!) then you will be just fine x

Bramshott · 18/03/2008 13:32

22 months is still very little. I didn't feel ready until DD1 was 3, and started ttc when she was 3.5. Now have 2 lovely girls who are so caring and lovely with each other and I can see lots of benefits in the 4 yr age gap.

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