Back to back chemical pregnancies

[minnieot]

Hello, I'm just posting in the hopes that I can find other people going through the same thing or other people who have been through the same thing but have gone on to have successful pregnancies. I've had two chemical pregnancies, one in November and one this week. I'm in my 20s and healthy as far as I'm aware so this has left me feeling very worried that there's something wrong with me. I didn't expect to get pregnant so easily as it was our first time trying since having my copper coil taken out and I'd never even heard of chemical pregnancies so it left me heartbroken. This time, I was feeling anxious and unoptimistic from the first BFP so I'm not as saddened by the loss itself this time, but moreso what it might mean for me. I've read many success stories but also many sad stories and I've read bad and good things about aspirin and also about progesterone supplements. My head is just all over the place and I don't know where to go from here, I've just convinced myself that my body for some reason cannot do the one thing it's supposed to do and I'll never be able to have a baby.

I'm very sorry about this, OP.

The thing is, many years ago, women had no means of knowing about chemical pregnancies, because it wasn't possible to test until the period was ten days late.

That's no comfort to you, of course, but it was just my way of saying that lots of pregnancies end very early because of this.

I had a lot of miscarriages (11) and suspected a great many more.

I did also have four live children though, so it is certainly possible.

I really hope you have a successful pregnancy soon OP. It's so sad and disheartening to lose babies.

I had an early miscarriage in December 22 and another one in March this year. I’m now 22 weeks pregnant and all is going well! It’s horrendous but try not to give up hope x

Also to add this time I did get given progesterone from the early pregnancy unit after an early scan. Guess I will never know for sure if they made a difference or not but felt reassured taking them

Thank you so much @TheShellBeach <3

and thank you for sharing @sweetdreams23 , your experience definitely gives me a bit of hope xx

Don't test until period is late I would suggest.

I wish I would've waited now but I fear I would've already known anyway. My period was late both times despite testing before and I felt pregnant both times. If it happens again I won't be testing early but I feel like I'll just know anyway. Plus, if it happens a third time I'd rather know about it now as I can actually ask for help after 3

Hi OP, sorry to hear you’re feeling so down and feeling that your body is failing you. I can relate to that feeling. Were both BFPs confirmed on digital tests? I don’t want to invalidate your experience but if you’re fairly new to TTC i just want to check are you aware of evap lines on tests? Some can look pretty convincingly positive even though they aren’t. Either way it’s a difficult emotional recovery, having hopes and making plans in that short period that are suddenly dashed.
If you can try to see a positive it’s that you are able to get pregnant and I hope the next one comes quickly and sticks.

Thank you so much ❤️ not confirmed on a digital but definitely not evap lines as they were fairly prominent and pink/red. Thank you for your kind words and it's comforting to hear that you understand how I'm feeling. I'm having a break from TTC this month just to mentally and physically recover a bit and then trying again in January and hoping that I've just been unlucky so far and it will work out next time x

@minnieot it's such a hard thing to go though and difficult to not feel like there must be something wrong.

I conceived my son on the 3rd cycle of trying, and the first with OPKs. I therefore assumed that second time round would be as easy. How wrong I've been. We started trying again September last year. Since then I've had a mmc in January, a chemical in May and a chemical last month. Looks like negative tests for me again this month after stupidly pinning my hopes on others being successful straight after a chemical.

I've got progesterone pessaries which I started the day I found out I was pregnant last cycle but they never had a chance to work as the tests were negative literally 3 days later (the lines were always really faint so I doubt my levels had even risen properly).

I'm getting a home test next month for DH sperm to see if everything is ok. I've had tests myself this year so unless my egg quality is the issue there's nothing medically wrong.

It's such a hard one as I can't face months of waiting to get pregnant again and knowing I could go through this again breaks my heart.

Oh I am so sorry to hear of your experience, you must be so strong. It's good that you have progesterone supplements, at least you can use those straight from ovulation now that you have them so fingers crossed your next one will stick but it is just so so so so hard and mentally draining. Especially when you research experiences of chemical pregnancies, it seems like everybody else managed to get pregnant and have it stick the cycle straight after, it feels so unfair and like it's so easy for everybody else. My heart goes out to you, please let me know how you get on and I'll be rooting for you, I hate that you're going through what you're going through but it's nice to hear that I'm not alone as it really feels like it sometimes xx

@minnieot thank you, I certainly don't feel strong. I'm getting to a point now where I will probably set a deadline to stop trying. It would pain me not to give my son a sibling but at the same time this journey is just so hard mentally. I'm 37 now so feel time is against me.

I think taking them from ovulation may be worth a try. I was told to take them from a positive pregnancy test but I've seen others who have been told to take them earlier than that.

So many seem to have a successful pregnancy after a chemical one that it does feel incredibly unfair.

Thank you, let me know how you get on to. You definitely have age on your side so I'll be keeping everything crossed you're successful very soon.

Just wanted to update this thread for anybody going through similar and reading in the future - I fell pregnant again the next cycle after posting this and I'm currently holding my baby in my arms. It's just a case of bad luck most of the time! x

Congratulations @minnieot on the birth of your baby, so lovely to read this post and just what I needed to read today ❤️

Ahh huge congratulations and thank you for updating. Really great news and so encouraging for others x