SURPRISE PREGNANCY!

[Gwat]

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Gwat · Today 21:05
Hi. This is my first post here. I have joined tonight because I am in need of advice.
A few weeks ago, my son met a girl on Tinder. They had a few dates and on Saturday 4th November he stayed at her home for 2 nights.

On 18th November, the girl called my son and told him she was pregnant. She showed him a test that showed 2 (very dark) lines.
He told me on Monday 20th. Believe me, I fully expressed my disappointment and tbh, disgust at him having unprotected sex. I have raised him better than that and always tried to drum it into him.

I was shocked that this has all happened so quickly and couldn’t wrap my head around it. Obviously I know that you can get a positive result after 2 weeks and from the first day of your missed period but something felt off. Maybe I was being hopeful that it wasn’t my sons… I don’t know. I don’t know how to react in this situation.

I thought it would be the right thing to do, to meet with the girl and her mum. I didn’t want them thinking that I wasn’t bothering and of course, I had questions of my own to ask.
So we met yesterday (Thursday 23rd November). I really wanted to create a civil friendship as conflict is the last thing I need or want. After this past year, and what we’ve been through as a family, peace is the only thing I welcome.

The first thing the mother said to me was “when I found out, I was fuming with your son. FUMING!!” I had to bite my lip with that line!

I went on to ask the girl how far along she thinks she is then… She looked at me dead in the eye and said “I done a clearblue test and it said pregnant - 3+ weeks.”

When I left, I spoke to my friends and said to them. I don’t get this. How can she be 3+ weeks when the 4th November was only 2 weeks and 5 days ago? 3+ weeks means more than 3 weeks.
My friend said “yes but when you find out your pregnant and go to the doctor you’re considered 4 weeks pregnant as obviously it starts from the first day of your last period.”

My head was such a mess I just accepted it and went to bed.
My cousin who is a midwife called me today and we chatted about the same thing. She told me to google for myself what the clearblue result means. So I did, and it’s as follows:

If the test result is 'Pregnant 3+", this indicates that conception occurred more than 3 weeks ago.

They hadn’t slept together over 3 weeks ago?! The weekend they spent together was 18/19 days ago. Thats not even 3 weeks let alone more than 3 weeks. I checked on clearblue and it only goes up to 3+ weeks. That means it could be 4 right?

I’m very confused here. Please help. 🙏🏻

How old are they?

They’re both 20. She said she went to go and get the tablets twice but the place didn’t have them in and they were “seeing that as a sign”.

My son has his head in the clouds. I’m trying to be supportive but he is younger than his years and although he claims to, I really don’t think he fully grasps the gravity of the situation and how tough it will be.

I was so angry when she said that. I wouldn’t have ever said that to her. 🫤

Timeline adds up, maybe a couple days off, but chances are it's his

Regardless if it was from a 1 night stand it's reasonable to get a DNA test once child arrives.

To me, she looked very unsure. She said she went to get the tablets twice but both times the doctor was out of them so they are taking this as a sign. So… I guess….

Those week indicator tests are based on hcg levels, which vary from person to person and pregnancy to pregnancy. It's an estimate. In addition to this, implantation can take between 6-12 days so two people could be at the exact same "stage" of the pregnancy process but have had sex 6 days apart and that's perfectly normal.
Early scans can easily be a few days out because we are talking tiny tiny measurements, say 6 or 7mm. And they grow at different rates, sizes and gestational ages are based on an average.
So even an early scan could suggest a conception date a week "off" but it's still within the realm of possibility. Even people who have IVF and therefore know exactly when conception happened for obvious reasons can have their dates adjusted based on perceived gestational age.
The only way to know for sure in that scenario is going to be a dna test.

Wouldn't the doctor have given a prescription which she would have taken to a pharmacy?

How many weeks is the first scan? If its an early reassurance scan then no , dating is not correct. It can be way off by a week or two .wait til the 12 weeks scan.
Regarding hcg , if she's getting seriously high hcg levels at 4 weeks , then that's concerning. Multiples, syndrome ect. Ivenever heard ofanyone getting 3+ at 4 weeks tho.
Or as your feeling she may indeed be telling porkies and looking someone to father her child. Maybe the actual dad isn't interested.
It'd just going to he a waiting game

This may help Clearblue guide

You need to add on 2 weeks