different from the other threads on this page but please hear me out 😔

[Flobomobo]

I’m 33, DP is 34. We have 2 children from previous relationships, both well integrated. We live together I have 100% custody and he has 50/50.

At the start of the relationship, 2 years ago we agreed no more children. But we both got broody and decided to go for it.

I booked to get my coil removed, and at 2am the night before it was due to be removed he woke me up to say he had changed his mine and doesn’t want anymore children.

I’m heartbroken. This was 3 weeks ago and it still hasn’t sunk in. We have talked about it and he said that he worried about money, space, our time together etc. all the stuff we talked about.

I can’t believe he let me go so far as I did, I even started pre natel vitamins and bought a couple of pregnancy tests just in case.

To him case is closed on it. How do I move past this?

I didn’t want any more children before him and he convinced me in so many ways. And now I’m here no knowing what to think.

I think you would be better posting in relationships.
Whilst he is fully entitled to change his mind at any time, it seems spectacularly cruel if it was him that convinced you then pulled the rug.

@NotReadyForThisYet thank you, I just have posted there too. But thank you for replying xx

That’s really hard op. I think you just need to give him some time to think about it all. He seems to have a panicked which is fair enough.
Maybe leave it a little while and revisit it again soon? See if his feelings have changed.
either that or talking through what’s worrying him. It’s horrible that you were so close to taking your coil out but it seems like it’s bothered him enough to wake you up meaning he probably wasn’t sleeping.

As difficult as it is, there are clearly strong reasons for his change of mind. And while disappointing, its not ideal to have a child with someone who doesn't want it as much as you.

Take time to reflect on whether you are happy to have no more children as this will have implications for your relationship.