TTC after 2nd trimester MC

[Nic2908]

Hello,

im feeling a little lost, and wasn’t sure which thread I would fit into and so decided to start my own thread.

In March 2023 I miscarried at 16 weeks. It was like a lightning bolt. We had gone for a gender scan and in a room surrounded with flat screen tvs I could see my baby and hear the words there is no heart beat being said to me.

over the next couple of days I had to leave my little boy go into hospital and deliver my beautiful little girl. Lilah. We now have a little baby grave in the cemetery where we visit to tell her how much we love her. On the whole although it may not seem it, I am ok.

We have decided that in December (one year and one month since we conceived Lilah) we will start to try for another baby. I am terrified.

and so I am looking for a group of people who maybe in the same position, even may not be in my position, but have chosen to be a part of my journey and so I do not need to worry or be concerned about others having fear following any of my very honest posts.

xxx

Sorry for your loss x. Wish you all the best in your journey x

Hiya. I see your post and couldn't just scroll passed, although not totally in the same timings with ttc.

I had a missed misscsrrisge on Monday at 12 weeks but baby only measured 5 weeks. Every loss its exceptionally hard I am well aware, but I do believe having to give birth and Bury your baby is a whole new level of loss and grief and my heart hurts for you.

I'm very sorry you had to go through that.

Wishing you luck with ttc again. I will be doing the same as soon as my hormones level off and I start ovulating again. It seems the be the only thing I can think about right now.

Take care x

Thank you for your comment and I am so sorry for your loss.

I'm so sorry for your loss, it's such a traumatic thing to go through. I found out at 13+2 that my baby had died at 11 weeks. It felt like a mini labour at home but I wasn't offered any kind of closure, no answers, no funeral etc.

I'm now 18+5 with a baby girl, it's been the most anxiety inducing, scary time of my life but I'm starting to think that we've got this. I'm starting to feel her move which brings me comfort, so assuming you can get through the days of unknown, it does begin to get easier. So many women go on to have successful pregnancies after a loss.

I'm wishing you all the best and letting you know you can do this 💪🏻.

Ahh thank you so much. I can only imagine how anxious and scared you must feel. I am pleased you starting to feel more hope and feeling her move must be a lovely little relief. Wishing your the healthiest and happiest rest of your pregnancy xxx