Having a little moan

[Bobbieiris]

Anyone else feel like trying to get pregnant just isn’t working? Tried for three months and got nothing, then got Covid for a month, then had a stressful month family / work wise and although we tried it just wasn’t working lol, and now my boyfriend has a stomach bug 🙈😅 trying my best to laugh it off but honestly, the last three months have been so unlucky!! Sorry, just wanted a little moan and felt like you guys would understand

@Bobbieiris yes! This will be our 4 month TTC (well 3rd proper month I would say) and although it’s super short the amount of time
compared to some, it already killing me!

Its one thing or another when TTC, i have family tell me it’ll happen straight away because it happened to them and other relatives (obviously not), we did everything ‘right’ last month and nothing! And now my
cousin has just announced their pregnancy after one month of trying.

its all very disheartening!

It’s hard isn’t it! I keep trying to be positive and remember we have hardly been trying, but I feel like everyone around me is getting pregnant. Lots of my family and friends conceived after a month or two. I was so excited at first as been wanting to start trying for the last four years. It’s so hard when you really want it isn’t it. I hope you have good news soon… fingers crossed for you!!

This was me - it took 3 months then Mc at 5w 3d, praying to get pregnant again this month and I’ll pray for your bfps too! X

I am so sorry to hear that, I really hope you have good news soon xx

@Bobbieiris god it’s like you’re writing about me- I’m in the exact same
situation. We wanted to start years ago but the timing wasn’t right, however, I’ve looked after myself, I came off birth control over a year ago, I’ve been tracking to understand my body and nothing! I hope for us all that it doesn’t take too long, it’s such a consuming thing.

@1111hope so sorry to hear about your MC. I wish you the very best and you get your happy ever after

@MissEmily5 im wondering if I’m stressing about it more than I realise…my cycles are all over the place, this month only 20 days! Have had a lot of additional work and family stress plus struggle with anxiety at times so hope if I manage to get that more under control if I might have more luck. I was really obsessed at the start, stopped running, gym etc as read exercise caused too much stress on the body etc, but I’m trying to have a more relaxed approach. Also thinking that ovulation tests and too much tracking might be stressing me out so might try to go with the flow more.
it is hard not to think about when it’s all you want, it’s so difficult not to get emotional isn’t it! At times I feel like it will never happen and get so overwhelmed by all the information that’s out there online, I don’t know what to think of it all! I hope you manage to get there soon xx

Feeling exactly the same! This is month 6 for me and no luck so far. Told myself that next month I'm not going to be using OPKs or laying with legs in the air or drinking grapefruit juice I'm just going to carry on with life! It gets so depressing 😞, I'm so lucky to have a 2 year old so I feel like I shouldn't complain, and I know 6 months is still not a lot of time but it's taken the excitement away! Just fed up.. so pleased it's not just me! Xx

@Bobbieiris its catch 22 isn’t it? They tell you not to stress and to get on with ‘normal’ life but you shouldn’t do certain things like not exercising too much, not drinking etc. and you should be doing others things to increase your chances.
I told myself I was going to be really laid back about TTC but I think that’s because I thought because I’d taken the time to get to know my cycles that it would be fine. Although, we’ve always said it’s not as easy as people think and I went into it thinking it could be a while- but even with that mindset I can’t help myself from getting my hopes up.
Last month, I was convinced was the month! I got my positive opks at CD14 and we had dtd every other day from CD7 and then on my ovulation. I had spotting 6 days before
my period which is super rare for me! So when my period came I was just devastated, even though I kept telling myself and my husband that it’s only our 2nd/3rd month of trying.
It is so very overwhelming and all consuming, I can’t help but think about it at work and at home! It’s no wonder we’re emotional about it because it’s just such a big thing our lives.
I’m happy to be here for a rant/moan/a sounding board for you ladies whenever, it’s a very specific journey we’re all on!

@TTCNoTWO so sorry you’re onto
cycle 6, everyone has the right to have a child when they want regardless if you have any other children or not- unfortunately, Mother Nature hasn’t got the memo! You’re definitely not the only one- as much as my husband is very supportive and compassionate I can’t obsess with him about every little potential symptom as I don’t want to get his hopes up, which is why these sorts of chats are great!

@TTCNoTWO I know I keep telling myself I’ll just relax next month and just dtd every other day and hope for the best. My cycles are all over the place and I’m not sure how reliable my clear blue test is, I’ve had a flashing smiley 5 days in a row! I keep trying to remind myself that it’s normal if it takes a year. It does get you down doesn’t it, it feels like a disappointment every month 😥 I hope you get good news soon 🤞🤞

@MissEmily5 I know; I used to love sprinting and HIIT but worry it’s too much stress on my body, feel like I’ve got really unfit! And I feel guilty if I have the odd glass of wine so just cut alcohol out completely. It is hard to forget when you have to make changes. I had the spotting too, for a full 24 hours really light, I was so upset when I got my period! I couldn’t believe how hard it all felt at first, my boyfriend and I had so many arguments it was crazy! And recently two people I know have got pregnant from a one night stand…if only it were that easy! Hoping I can learn to relax a little now. Thank you for listening to my moaning, it’s nice to know I’m not alone! It can feel quite isolating sometimes I think, I’ve told a few friends and family we are trying but obviously mostly keeping it to myself so do feel a bit alone in it all sometimes

@Bobbieiris @MissEmily5 thank you both! It's so nice to talk to people who understand and not just "oh it can take ages stop worrying". When you want something so badly and you have to go through a whole month to see a BFN over and over again, it drains you after a while!
X

@TTCNoTWO thank you too ❤️ it’s such an emotional time! Xx

@Bobbieiris it really is the most emotional time and it’s so hard when someone you know gets pregnant so easily, you can’t help but have your mind race with what ifs! It’s definitely a lot of pressure with your partner, it’s so funny to me when people say just enjoy the process but when it’s not happening it makes it very difficult. Me and my husband found that the best thing is me not to tell him when I’m ovulating as such, even though he knows the general time period by sort of ignoring it he felt much more relaxed!
we’ve just told our parents because they kept asking, mainly my MIL saying that it’ll happen straight away because it did for her and the same with her other son and his wife- when said to her that it’s been 4 months she was a little stunned. I know she means well but it was definitely hard for
both me and my OH.

@TTCNoTWO definitely! Happy to be here for you ladies if you need a rant and a rave. It is one of the toughest things I’ve ever been through- like you said when you want something so much it’s hard to just be ‘patient’ or ‘relax’! I ask everyone who says that how to do that and no one has an answer 😂

@MissEmily5 that’s frustrating that your family have been asking, must be a lot of pressure! I honestly have no idea when I’m ovulating, I never have any cramps etc and the tests don’t seem very accurate and cycles are all over the place! just guesswork really lol, dtd as much as possible but boyfriend often works late so it’s a little exhausting sometimes lol! 😅

I'm exactly the same as you 😂 had MMC in April and been trying ever since. Had a chest infection that ended up on steroids, a couple of UTIs, a couple of stomach bugs, a virus.

Currently 3dpo, had sex quite a lot more than usual in my fertile window but had a sickness bug the day after I got my positive OPK so I don't even know if I ovulated 🤦🏻‍♀️😩

@SPsmama it’s typical isn’t it 😂😂 such a pain!! Fingers crossed for you! X

@Bobbieiris ovulation is a tricky one for me too! I’ve been testing for the past two months- no positives in September (I did only test in the morning and I switched from strips to digital) and in October I again tested in the morning and got to CD14 and had awful cramps so tested at 6 at night after 4hrs of no drink and got my first smiley.

I’m currently on CD16 and since CD13 I’ve been testing morning and afternoon and nothing! (Hoping it’s because I had stomach bug CD11). It’s so stressful isn’t it when you don’t know/regular ovulation time frame!

Definitely exhausting doing the DTD all the time! 🙈😂

how is everyone doing? X

Hi ladies

Joining on here too. I'm waiting for AF to go and moving into cycle 6 ttc number 2. I'm approaching 35 (the dreaded number).

In case it's of help, I rang the GP to see if I could push for some testing to put my mind at ease even though it's not been too long. I was ready for make my case but there was no questioning, the GP just said straight away she would send me a form for some blood tests. Obviously hoping that it's just a case of time but would rather know now. Baby dust xx

TTC suuuucks! Currently month 11, cycle 12 and not a whisper of a positive in that time (but I do only have one ovary and tube so I'm trying to be kind to myself). At the start you tell yourself you're going to be super chill about the whole thing then you're stressing because you woke up in the night and will it affect your BBT, have peed on about a dozen different sticks in a month and gave your DP evils because he had a tummy ache but you've got a positive OPK. 😅 And I'm not even going to get started on the symptom spotting!
Have two cycles between now and a year of TCC so if I'm still not pregnant by January I'll be off to the docs for some initial investigations.

TTC is the hardest thing ever- i’m sick of people telling me to just enjoy it and relax! I’m only on cycle 4 and it’s breaking my heart every month- firstly worrying about not ovulating and then the TWW. I hope for us all we get our BFP so very soon! ✨ 🤞

@Fairy0708 great that doctors are
taking your concerns seriously and fingers crossed you get things sorted and you have a little babe to show for it soon.

@Mauhea you stress over little thing don’t you, and then you stress about stressing and stress that the stress is causing the problems 🙈😂 I’m trying to find the balance of not stressing my DH out but BD as much as possible just incase I get my
+OPK soon.

my latest stress is that I’m CD17 and no +OPK yet and my cycles vary from 25-30 days but average out 27 days. Last month I got a positive OPK on CD14 afternoon (I test twice a day am and pm) and have been testing since CD8. But nothing this month 😩 I’m hoping I’m ovulating soon and it’s been pushed back as I had sickness and stomach bug on CD11. But something else to stress about 🙈

Fingers crossed for a positive OPK soon! Mine tend to go from 0-100 in a few hours so I'm left in suspense for days then suddenly it's there and raring to go.

Approx 8DPO today. It's my Birthday on Friday and have lots planned so I'll be testing in the morning. I'm a 'drink until you see pink' kind of girl so we'll just have to see what happens. An early BFP would be a great birthday present but so will a big glass of rum and coke!

@Mauhea thank you! I’m hoping that is the case with me. Either way we’ve done all we can this month- BD every other day so let’s hope we’re not exhausted for no reason! 😂

Happy Birthday for Friday! Fingers crossed you get your early birthday present,
if not sounds like you’ve got a good plan!🥰

@Fairy0708 Oh really? That’s good to know about the gp, I’m 34 in February so feeling a bit worried about age (although my mum keeps feeling me to stop worrying as she had me at 42!) . I think I’ll give my gp a call. Fingers crossed for you!!! 😊❤️

@Mauhea I totally get what you mean about stressing about stress! I’ve had so much family and work stress on top of TTC ghat I feel like I’m constantly looking out for signs of stress then worrying that I’m not calm enough to conceive …..it’s ridiculous 😂😂 hope you enjoy your birthday!!! ❤️🥳

@MissEmily5 it’s so hard trying to work out ovulation isn’t it? And I never thought sex would become so difficult 🙈 my boyfriends been Ill and stressed out with work this month so not the most successful lol!