Self-pity post

[BusiBo]

Just feeling so fed up!

We starred TTC in Sept 2022. I had a miscarriage at 11 weeks in March and haven't conceived again since.

When we started trying for a baby over a year ago, it was so exciting! I was in such a happy place! But now, the loss and amount of time it's taking to get pregnant again is so draining. I feel like I've got little joy/happiness in my life and my mind is constantly fixed on the miscarriage or TTC. I'm starting to worry there's a problem, I just can't see this going well for us anymore.

I still think about the miscarriage every single day - is that normal? I'm so fed up of feeling sad. Can't remember the last time I just let go and had some fun. There's babies and pregnancy all around me, it feels like I can't catch a break.

I never imagined it would be so hard. Very aware that other people have much more difficulty than us - Just feeling down and sorry for myself I guess.

Didn’t want to read and run - so sorry to hear about your miscarriage and that you’re struggling that must be awful. It definitely is normal to be on your mind a lot when it’s all you want
In a different situation but also feeling fed up, been off the pill and ‘trying’ for the best part of 3 years without even 1 positive test and it’s horrible, getting us both down especially as 2 of my good friends are currently pregnant by accident (so pleased for them but how does it happen by bloody accident 😂)
its such a hard time I don’t really have any advice as it’s hard to not let it become all consuming. Hoping it happens for you in the near future!

Hi @over30sclub thank you for your reply! I find the whole TTC journey can be pretty lonely so its nice to hear from other people who can relate.
So sorry to hear its been so long for you! That must be really difficult - have you gone for any testing?
As we get closer to the year mark with no luck the thought of going to the doctor for tests is starting to worry me - I'm not sure I could handle any bad news!

I know what you mean I speak to my close friends but all have children or don’t have this problem so it’s difficult and sometimes lonely.
it has been tiring the last year or so especially as we were very casually trying the first 12-18 months (thinking if it happens, it happens!). We did have tests and have been told there’s nothing wrong with either of us which should be good news but so frustrating when they say there’s nothing we can do I.e just keep trying and it ‘should’ happen.. We are eligible for IVF because it’s been so long, I never really wanted to go down that road, but starting to think we might have to.

I would go for the tests if I were you, you know you can fall pregnant so there is likely nothing wrong but at the very least will give you some answers and hopefully put your mind at rest 😊

Virtual hug. I have no solutions to your problems, but I wish you strength and resilience on your TTC journey. Hope you don't have wait too much longer to meet your child.

Good much