First time TTC baby number 1

[jenkh91]

I am only on month 2 of ttc baby number 1 and did not expect it to be this hard mentally! I was not expected us to conceive quickly, I am almost 33 and OH is 40, however I have not been on contraception for a couple of years and have very regular periods.

1st month trying, i had very sore boobs and weird cramps about a week before my period, then i started spotting (I literally NEVER have any spotting) so was convinced i was pregnant, but then my period came a few days early and was super heavy, which isn't normal for me.

This month my period is due in a few days and I have all the usual period symptoms so I think this month is also out.

It's so weird we spend so many years trying not to get pregnant and then this! 😂

I feel like it's sending me mad, anyone else finding the same?

I'm going to be honest - get off Mumsnet and enjoy it. You have no reason to worry, your age is not a concern, and it's very normal to take 6-12 months.

@PinkRoses1245 I know you are 100% right, it is just hard to not find it all consuming and to be in my own head and I see a lot of people on here saying the same

I’m exactly the same! I find it so lonely some months especially when AF turns up. I’ve tried to be a bit more relaxed this month but not sure it’s had any success yet!

it is only early so try and not be too disheartened, I’m on month 4 TTC and I honestly thought it would be so much easier to get pregnant. Your age is still good and there’s so many people conceiving at 32/33 so I wouldn’t worry about your age.

Try and enjoy the process and not let it consume you. I know it’s way easier said than done as I spent the first 3 months stressing and worrying about every symptom and it really affected me mentally. I have definitely being in a much better place this month by allowing myself the bit of a break.

I stressed for a couple of months, super conscious of tracking and timing, googling everything lived on here. Then after month 4 I thought this is too stressful, ditched it all and felt much calmer. Fell pregnant a month or two later. Try not to stress and compare, enjoy it and trust the process!

thank you @Flopsy145 @Roseberry22 yep i think the tracking makes you obsessive because when you are logging temperature every morning it means you are automatically starting every day thinking about it!

I think i will keep tracking for a couple more months so i can understand my cycle properly but then try and take a step back. Hopefully it will help that the next couple of months are going to be super busy and i can take my mind off it a bit and just feel a bit more natural about everything!

I know what you mean about spending decades making sure not to get preggo and then trying - so weird.
I was 35 first time and it took 6 mos because my cycle was slightly different from what I'd read and we were concentrating our efforts too late in the cycle. I was just on the point of starting to freak out since I was 35. DH was going away for a week - the week I thought would be the 'best' week - but the night before he left we gave it the old college try anyways and that did the trick.
Second time around, I was older but wiser so hit the sweet spot in my cycle on the first try!
Hang in there and enjoy trying. Also, lots of others will be on to say that when you stop trying, it happens.

I'm 41 (just turned) and DH is 44, we're trying for our first.
I've never felt like a wanted a baby with anyone until we met, now I feel like I've left it too late!!!
9 dpo today... trying to not test till Saturday....

Ladies please don't stress at all. Took me 6 years to conceive dd2 and 7 years to conceive ds. This was with no contraception at all. Your time till come