Older couple

[ThesisthenaViva]

Hi!
I just wanted to know if any older couples (35+ female, 50+ male) have managed to conceive naturally?

Sorry but 50 is too old .. imagine a 62y old playing footie with a 12y old or clothes shopping age 14y and 64.. how do u financially support past 65, plus uni living costs when youre 68yr old

Think of the child

My parents - 38 and 48 respectively.
They were fantastic parents despite being older, especially for the 1980’s. But, both had died before I was mid 20’s. So I’m afraid I’d agree that 50 is too old.

50 is to old & selfish.

Have to disagree here. Df was 47 when my younger dais was born. Much better dad to her than us older ones esp dbro - df was 25 when he was born. DM has dsis at 39 & is still mostly going strong altho df died a few yrs ago

@scottishmam75 @user14699084663 @TiredMamOfTwo many thanks for your opinions- much appreciated. In fact you guys could potentially be Loose Women panellists- but do you have an answer to the ACTUAL question I posed?

I am the child of older parents (even older than your age ranges) and know of at least three others with fathers over 50, probably more. So that answers your question really! All natural conceptions.
I always hate these kind of threads really because opinions can be so varied and I can't help but take comments personally when they say it's selfish or too old! I obviously don't know any different from the life I've had but aside from wanting more time with my parents I wouldn't change them or their ages. Their life experience made them the parents they were and that contributed to the person I am.

I did. My parents were close to the ages you asked about and conceived naturally. Doesn’t mean because you can that its fair on the child though…make sure you’ve got some good life insurance if you’re successful would be my advice, I at least wasn’t left orphaned and penniless!

Ages 35-40 is still a good chance to conceive but past 40 might be a bit more challenging.

Yes I was 35 when I got pregnant, husband was 52. No problems in pregnancy except high blood pressure but now have a happy healthy 13mo 😁

most of the dads in my NCT group were pushing 50 and the mums late 30s. That’s not unusual

My parents aged 37 and 54 (and again barely a year later). So definitely possible.

Whether it's a good idea is another matter. The age gap with my DF was pretty insurmountable for my DB and me.

I did conceive at 37 but it ended in a loss. I haven't been able to get pregnant again but I have a whole host of gynae issues + male factor

Yes they have.

I suggest you consider pre- conception testing so you know what you're dealing with, and start optimising lifestyle factors now if you haven't already.

Has either of had children before?

50 plus is way too old. I think many women conceive with no problems in mid 30s -early 40s though and I had my son at 35, but did get severe preeclampsia and have had too losses since. Sperm quality declines with age and higher risk of genetic abnormalities. Plus dad will be ancient by the time they are old enough to drink.

My partner was 45 when our eldest was born, 49 with the youngest, I’m 34. He’s a brilliant dad, fit and healthy and our girls have a brilliant life because he’s financially stable and able to spend more time with them and away from his business. All those spouting it’s too old are ignorant and rude, 50 these days isnt like it was in the 1960s! Doesn’t automatically mean someone’s on their way out, huddled next to the fire with slippers on. Mumsnet really is a cesspit sometimes.

35 here when I conceived. I had a very straightforward pregnancy (complete with morning sickness the first trimester), barring an edging into Gestational Diabetes, which was controlled through diet. (I was normal weight and ate very healthily, so it came as a bit of a surprise.)

Plus dad will be ancient by the time they are old enough to drink.

I failed to even consider this point. That poor 18 year old will have to drag their father's sarcophagus to the local pub to have their first drink with them.

go for it 😊good luck

Doesn’t older dad give rise to higher risk of autism

@crumblingschools yes there is research linking the age of the Father with an increased risk of autism. Has this man had children before and is it a second family for him? If so what sort of financial commitments does he have if they are still dependants.

I’m sorry but all these replies are not replies to their question be a bit more sensitive or don’t say anything

No experience from myself but there are older dads in my sons class, and they are always the ones running about the parties!
Go for it. People are being rude.

I wouldn't consider 35 as older. Likely it would take longer but so much is chance. You could get private fertility tests done so you have more information.

All of this 50 is too old. Ignore, complete bollocks. My husband has been pretty useless physically since he was 30. Should we not have had kids? My stepdad is 78, lives playing football with our 3 year old grandson. My husband spends hours with him reading, puzzling, drawing, talking. Developing his brain in short.

We conceived our youngest at nearly 39 and 45. He’s nearly 21 now, we’re not dead yet!