Does anyone else feel so lonely TTC?

[IsLarryFromSomething]

Hello everyone. I know it is not easy TTC but it has been almost 10 months for us with no success. My cycle is all over the place - in fact, I thought I ovulated a couple of weeks ago and was getting ready for my period now, because of course pregnancy tests are all negative, but yesterday I had the biggest LH spike ever, and now premom says I am ovulating today on CD 35. Which means if true my cycle will be over 50 days long. I feel like I am a freak of nature and everywhere I look, all I see is people whose bodies work properly with their lovely babies and children. All I can think about is, why not me, what is wrong with me, will I ever get to be a mother? DH obviously disappointed so far but keeping a brave face for the both of us. I just feel so alone. Is that normal?

Have you had bloods to test for pcos? I struggled like this for my periods for many years and only recently asked to be screened and this was why my cycles were so long.

I had blood tests for a variety of things in the spring and apparently they came back clear.Would that have showed up then?

My mother also has long cycles , but it only took her 8 months to conceive me.

I totally understand how you feel OP my cycles were always irregular and it was hard to track when I was ovulating and like you my bloods all came back fine. It does feel isolating but you aren't alone lots of women go through this. I tried all In all for 7 years including IVF to try to have a baby and it was so tough and I totally get feeling like your body just isn't going to do this when everyone else finds it so easy.

I'm sorry you went through it too, it is good to know I'm not the only one. I hope from your username that you were successful eventually x

@IsLarryFromSomething Your post resonates with me… we have been trying a little less time (6m) but also have long cycles, sometimes short, and in that time have only had 3 ovulations that I can confirm. I’m finding BBT with fertility friend very helpful. It really sucks when you don’t ovulate when you think you did. Or end up thinking you might be pg based on symptoms then realise you never ovulated in the first place - happened to me a couple of times.
Like you I’ve had the blood tests (I’m 37 and told the Gp I need to know if I’m wasting my time trying). All clear regarding PCOS, thyroid etc. Discovered I’m iron deficient and my oestrogen is sky high on day 2 of my cycle which is interesting. I’ve read the period repair manual and am
trying to put some of that into practice. It’s just exhausting though tbh.
from your OP it sounds like you are TTC#1? My cycles were irregular but not as crazy as they are now. We were so lucky then and conceived first time, but that was 10 years ago so much has changed.

I am currently 22 weeks pregnant so although it took its time and I hope it isn't as long for you it did happen.

I know its easier said than done but if you just try to relax and not over think it I'm sure it'll make it a bit easier. Not that I have always been brilliant at that myself however.

Yes, trying for our first. Thank you both xx

Oh girl, I feel the same way. We’ve been ttc for a year this month (my typical pre-period symptoms have already started so I know I’m out). I feel so drained.

My blood tests were all normal but ultrasound showed a small endometrial cyst. No one seems concerned but googling is full of horror stories.

this is the most isolating and lonely time of my life. I think it’s because it’s all happening in your body and your mind, and no one around you (even our caring and loving partners) is actually experiencing what we are.

i really hope you get good news soon, but it’s always worth speaking to the gp and pushing for referrals where relevant. Sometimes I’ve felt a bit better just knowing I’m being proactive. Sending you lots of love!

Thank you xx Did you have any symptoms of a cyst? (I don't know what those might be, but would be good to know.)

Hi, yes I completely empathise with feeling lonely!
We are 7 months on from a miscarriage with no luck yet. While my bf is amazing, he's alot more patient than me, and I think because he doesn't feel it physically like I do, it's a little easier.
Family don't know we are TTC and friends either got pregnant really quickly and easily or they are not TTC at all so I sometimes feel like I've got no one to talk too.
I find keeping busy helps, but it's easier said then done. I switch from feeling sad to absolute anger at the situation!

@IsLarryFromSomething i wouldn’t say so, no. It was a real shock to find out I had one. I have pretty painful and heavy periods but that’s always been the case for me!

I get spotting every month from around 6dpo until my period which I think must be causing issues with implantation. Doctors don’t think the spotting and cyst are linked though 🙁 but I’m not so sure.

I hope they figure it out! 💕

Hugs to you @BusiBo !

I'm so sorry @IsLarryFromSomething
TTC is an incredibly lonely path to be on when the months and years tick by with no end in sight.

Removing myself from social media helped me a little and surrounding myself with supportive family and friends who knew about my struggles was the key to me staying sane.

Only advice I can offer is to start looking at private fertility treatment. Don't rely on any tests, scans or treatments supplied by the NHS (unsure where you're located). With luck, you won't need to head down the private clinic route but be mindful about timescales if age is a factor.

Thank you very much. I will look into that. Xx