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Conception

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Anyone else experienced a chemical? Were your cycles normal afterwards ?

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Swirls346 · 13/10/2023 17:43

Going through a chemical pregnancy, had positive tests for 3 days and now started bleeding (5 days after period due). I'm a little crushed because it's the first time we've ever conceived naturally- our first baby was IVF. So scared we will need to go through all that again but going to try naturally for a while first.
Has this happened to anyone else?
I feel really sad like I need to grieve. Is that normal? I know it was really early but still feel like I've lost something :(.

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LW678 · 13/10/2023 17:49

Hello. So sorry to read you’re going through a chemical, I hate the term chemical. Just because it happened early it is still a miscarriage and of course it is right to be feeling the way you are, no matter how early on you are you still need time to grieve. I had a chemical back in June, kept myself busy to
get through it. I really hope you’re ok. My
cycles were slightly heavier after. I have now conceived again and am 6 weeks pregnant. It will work out for you x

J3llycat · 13/10/2023 17:52

So sorry, I was in your position a few months ago it is heartbreaking 🙏🏻

I ovulated slightly early the cycle after at CD13 then had really long PMS straight after ovulation (horrendous sore boobs and hot flushes) up until AF which came on CD26. I suppose it's the hormones balancing out again. Be easy on yourself 💖

J3llycat · 13/10/2023 17:55

And I definitely grieved what could have been, but it's best to take a deep breath and look forward. X

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Swirls346 · 13/10/2023 18:12

LW678 · 13/10/2023 17:49

Thank you . I needed to hear this. I feel crushed xxx

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Swirls346 · 13/10/2023 18:13

@LW678 and so pleased you conceived again. Was it the cycle afterwards? X

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LW678 · 13/10/2023 18:17

@Swirls346 I did too. I had to put on a brave face as I was a bridesmaid on the day I was miscarrying, I threw up in the evening due to trying to act fine when inside I felt distraught. It was the second cycle we conceived on. I wish you all the best and hope it happens really quickly for you. Also don’t feel as if you have to put on a brave face, what you’re going through is horrible x

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Swirls346 · 13/10/2023 18:24

@LW678 omg how awful for you. Such a horrible thing to go through. I actually called in sick to work yesterday and have been off today because it's like I knew something wasn't right when the tests were quite faint. Were your tests faint as well?
The worst of it is I've been feeling pregnant all week and really sick. But now I've started bleeding the symptoms have also gone.
I really hope we conceive soon too. This was the fifth cycle of trying. But being told chances are low because of low sperm count and PCOS I was so hopeful. But I have regular (ish) periods since having my son so that's something. I will take the weekend to grieve and then move on. You have to pick yourself up don't you even when you feel like laying on the floor sobbing 😭

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LW678 · 13/10/2023 18:27

Mine were really faint and yes I knew something wasn’t right due to them not getting darker I was just waiting for the inevitable to happen. This cycle they got darker and I’m sure yours will too when you conceive. Try and pick yourself up as much as you can over the weekend, treat yourself to a nice drink and a nice bit of food. It’s really exciting trying to conceive again though x

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Swirls346 · 13/10/2023 18:34

@LW678 yeah that's how I knew something wasn't right. With my son I got such strong positives by the time my period was due and a dye stealer a day later.
Thank you so much 😊 I do have a beautiful little boy , he's only 21 months so keeps me on my toes!

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justanotherlaura · 13/10/2023 19:51

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I had a chemical and started bleeding on Christmas Eve, it was horrible trying to keep a brave face on over Christmas, typical it was the first we'd gone home to spend it with family so I wasn't even in my own bed.

I grieved for weeks and weeks after and was even worse at my next period as I'd convinced myself I might be one of those that conceives the first cycle after but I didn't. I did conceive on my second cycle and by the next Christmas I had a little 8 week old to take home to family!

I know quite a few people that conceived in the first couple of cycles after, hope you do too

SnookyPook · 13/10/2023 21:07

@Swirls346 so very sorry for your loss, and as the others have said, a loss is a loss, no matter how early! You have every right to be devastated.

I had a CP last cycle on very similar timing. Had a faint positive at 14dpo and another very faint one at 18dpo. Next day I had a negative digital test and started bleeding the day after - 5 days after my BFP (although more of a SMP - small faint positive).

Much to my surprise, I've just had a BFP this cycle - the one straight after my CP. I'm feeling very cautious about it all as unfortunately I also had a MMC in April but hopefully this will be my rainbow baby...

Best of luck to you going forwards.

Oldandtrying23 · 13/10/2023 21:30

Best of luck to you. I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks on my hen weekend, then a chemical the following month, followed by another chemical on honeymoon. Am really hoping this month may be the one.
my periods were 9 weeks late after the first MC and then subsequent CP. and 8 days late on the last one.
fingers crossed for our rainbows 🌈

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