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AlwaysLate13 · 10/10/2023 23:33

Hi everyone, so I’m feeling very alone tonight so just wanted to post (please don’t comment any hate, I already know everything you’ll say). I’ve been seeing someone long distance for nearly 3 years. We both have kids with other people so neither of us can move. Everything’s been ok lately though apart from that fact. However, tonight he tells me that he wants to just be friends and that it’ll never work out. I’m broken, to say the least. It hurts so bad 😭 thing is, we’ve been using the pull out “method” for a around 6 months. Nothing has ever come of it, but we only see each other around once a month. I saw him this weekend just gone, and now I’m stressing because I was ovulating at the time. He pulled out a minute or 2 in advance and we did it twice on 2 separate days so shouldn’t have been any swimmers on the outside. Just wondering if anyone has had pull out work for a while and then fail? He did pee and shower in between, but I don’t know. We had talked about children previously and that it wouldn’t be a bad thing, but now this has happened tonight, it wouldn’t be ideal 🤦🏻‍♀️

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Tigger1116 · 10/10/2023 23:57

I can’t help about your main question but I hope you are ok I know it’s horrible and hard when the relationship ends I’m sorry you are stressing about it all sending a hug

SnookyPook · 11/10/2023 00:05

@AlwaysLate13 sending you a big hug. That's really rubbish. As for your question, I don't think pull-out method is ever considered overly 'safe' but hopefully nothing will come of it. Even couples who are actively TTC and time DTD several times around ovulation each month deliberately can take months to conceive so try not to worry.

It is indeed pretty shit right now but you will be fine... 💕

Scotmum256 · 11/10/2023 08:37

If it helps I do think pull put is effective ( I know laugh laugh lol) has worked for my partner and I for over 10 years amd first month not pulling out I got pregnant . I know not everyone has had it as lucky as us and accide ts fo happen

AlwaysLate13 · 11/10/2023 09:36

Thanks for the replies everyone, they really do mean a lot, I feel like I'm alone. Why are break ups so crappy. It physically hurts this morning, and I’m sick of crying 😭🤦🏻‍♀️ fingers crossed my period comes ☹️😢 xx

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deltablue · 11/10/2023 20:28

Break up pain is so bad. Sending you a big hug.

AlwaysLate13 · 11/10/2023 23:32

Thank you, that really means a lot ♥️

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deltablue · 12/10/2023 07:44

I don't know if this is any help but maybe put a date on a wall calendar a month from now and plan to do something really special for yourself- maybe a gallery or a lunch with friends, or a concert- whatever you might enjoy. It gives you something to focus on and meanwhile try to get a walk outside for at least half an hour each day to be out of your cave. And don't beat yourself up if you drink/smoke/eat too much in the meantime. One day after the next until you get some clear water. X

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