ttc dc 2 at 37 & feeling low..Bit long, sorry....

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Hello - just needing a bit of propping up really! I'm 37 on Sat (can't believe I've written that as my age - arent' I supposed to be a mature adult by now?!).

Dh is 49. We conceived dd, now 4, when I was nearly 32. Straight off, no messing about, first time! I had been on anti-depressants but came off to conceive and held on for 11 weeks of pregnancy til I felt so unwell in my head I had to go back on, albeit a different,older-style medic.

For various reasons I won't drone on about, its taken me til end of last year to feel ready to go for another child but I am comfortable that it is what I really want now (as does Dh). We decided to start at beg this year. My cycle is very predictable and I watch the fertile mucus stuff which is what I did last time.

So in Jan I had lots of early symptoms (boobs tingling loads being my "big" one that I remember from last time too). Did early test which showed faint line. But period came. Same has happened this time but didn't taunt myself with early test. Period came today.

I feel very low and teary and although I know full well that experience of conceiving dd was not average, and that its only been 2 months this time round, I don't know how long I can stay well without anti depressants, and I really want to stay off them as far into pregnancy as poss.

I have a concern too that having had a caesarean my insides are not as "conception friendly" (scarring?) as before. I really don't think I have imagined the boob feelings/other early symptoms so is something preventing the fertilised egg from implanting?

I am a bundle of stress and worry at moment and no doubt getting it all out of proportion. Dh keeps on that he doesn't relish thought of being 50 when a dc 2 is born, and I worry the the age gap between dd and another is getting too wide. I blame myself for not feeling ready to try before this year.

If anyone has time to read this and post a reply I'd be really grateful.

dont worry it will happen when it does and you are chasing 2 around you will be thinking youve gone mad!!

Please don't stress - there are 7 years between my sister and I and we are very close - and my dad was 47 when I was born, but it's never been an issue. It is quite stressful taking longer second time round - I have two dcs and am ttc number 3. Both the first two came along first month we tried and I am now on cycle 3 with this one. I think I've read so many threads with poor people who have been ttc for years that I've convinced myself there's now something seriously wrong, even though in actual fact, you and I were lucky first time round. My tip is to try buying some cheap ov tests from Ebay - less than four quid, keeps your mind busy and might even help ttc! Seriously though, good luck. Have you had a word with your doctor about the antidepressants - can't be good to be on hem permanently?

I just wanted to offer some 'you are not alone' type support. I am also just coming up to 37, have one DS and have been trying for #2 for - well, depends on how you look at it really, but for about 8 months. Also concieved pretty much first time last time and without knowing anything about fertile times and all that. So I understand the worry and also the stress when you spend a lot of time on the TTC threads. I don't think any of this is much help is it? But you are not alone, and I really hope it all works out for you. Remember, internet gathering places will show up more than the usual number of people with problems, this is where the support is. Doesn't mean our chances are that low

Hi,

I just wanted to say that I had DD who is 3.5 and have been TTC for 2.5 years. I also had a c section with DD and lost a lot of blood. Concieved quickly with DD and I too am starting to think that the c section has done something to me womb - does anyone have any experience of this?

On the positive side my sis in law has had 3 c sections and concieved easily after each one. Maybe we are just convincing ourselves there is a problem???

This is such a fantastic website - thank you all for just being there - it has helped more than you'll know already that a) there are people in similar situations and b) there are others just willing to share to help me. Thank you. I am just off to have a LARGE gin and tonic (obviously been restricting myself for a while!) but in meantime:-

ELR - take that point completely! We are about to have extension put on house which involves new kitchen etc - maybe "the universe" is telling me - get that sorted first darlin'!

jaype - that's so lovely that you and your sis are close - I do think in my heart that families can take many different forms and whatever happens its for the best all round. would love to know the detail of the "cheap opks on ebay" - think I need to get a bit more technical! And I'm hoping that this is the cue to come off the anti-deps anyway - think the building work stress isn't helping - having extra acupuncture which I find really helps.

CaptainKarvol & Hopingforbabyno2 - do you find it becomes all-encompassing? Every month and every twinge?! Its so helpful to me to know others are "going there" too.
Would be good to know if anyone else has experience of womb problems post caesarean - I had a blood transfusion too - periods never came back of own accord - had to go back on pill - although they have been appearing regularly (if very much lighter than pre-dd) since I came off.
Big hugs everyone!