What would you do in our position? TTC number 2?

[elm26]

Hi everyone

I had a baby girl in May after 9 years of unexplained recurrent miscarriages.

We are so over the moon and adore her, I'd like to try and give her a sibling however I know that it may not be easy. I'm 30 and DH 31, we've both agreed that if we haven't managed to have another baby by the time I'm 36 then we will stop there.

My predicament is that if by some super miracle I conceive really quickly and baby is as healthy as DD and thrives, we have a big holiday booked with friends and all of our children in June and ideally I'd like to not be pregnant, enjoy time with friends, DD and DH and enjoy a couple of cocktails.

I'm also scared to delay TTC until holiday/just after due to how long it took us to get our beautiful daughter. I've heard you're super fertile for the first 6 months after baby is born.

What would you do?

I would wait to TTC until after the holiday.
First of all, have you got your period back yet?? It’s common (if you’re breastfeeding) not to get your period back for a long time postpartum and you wouldn’t be able to conceive until you start ovulating anyway. With DC1 I didn’t get my period back until 14 months postpartum!
Your baby girl is still so young if she was only born in May! Do you not want to try and enjoy her and have some time just with her before putting your body through the stress of pregnancy? You also may want to give yourself more time to recover from your first pregnancy! It’s still so soon and studies show it is better to wait a bit before getting pregnant again. How was your first pregnancy? I found my second pregnancy so tiring and really struggled with not feeling I was being “present” enough for my first (my first was a toddler at the time so a bit older though) - I wouldn’t obviously change having my second but I’m glad I did wait until my first was walking and I wasn’t having to carry them everywhere.
I would try and enjoy the first year with your daughter as much as you can, have a great holiday and then try!

Hi @elm26
If it were me hun, i'd start ttc x

You'd ideally like to not be pregnant for your holiday.

But you're scared of waiting TTC.

So the question is, which do you want more? A pregnancy-free holiday, after which getting pregnant is no guarantee, or do you want to start trying for a second baby now, knowing that you 1) might not get pregnant quickly or 2) might be heavily pregnant / have had another baby by the time the holiday comes around and potentially miss it?

Which is your priority and what does your DH say?

I would personally wait, to give your body more of a chance to heal.

I went to the Canaries while pregnant this year and it was lovely. Depends just how much you want some cocktails!