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Can indents/evaps have colour? TW- not a happy thread

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VulpixTail · 29/09/2023 11:35

Really hoping these are indents. I really, really don’t want another child.

I’m on the pill but keep cheapy tests in the house for peace of mind. They are usually blank white. I do them regularly as I would rather find anything out early than too late. This is informed by a friend’s horrible experience of a late discovered pill pregnancy.

Didn’t want a coil or anything inserted as husband is planning on having the snip in a 6 months. He wanted to wait until our DD is 2 before he firmly decided if he was one and done like me.

I was horrified to see two lines this morning. I have followed the protocol. I have missed some pills due to irregular sleep and busy mornings, but I have followed the protocol perfectly when they are missed.

Are there any chance they are indents? They have colour. None of them are first morning urine. One a second wee at about 9ish, the other just now.

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VeryUninspired · 29/09/2023 11:36

I’m sorry I can’t see any pictures.

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VulpixTail · 29/09/2023 11:36

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Can indents/evaps have colour? TW- not a happy thread
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VulpixTail · 29/09/2023 11:36

VeryUninspired · 29/09/2023 11:36

I’m sorry I can’t see any pictures.

Just uploaded. Forgot to attach.

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curliegirlie · 29/09/2023 11:37

Sorry, those are clear positives...

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VulpixTail · 29/09/2023 11:43

curliegirlie · 29/09/2023 11:37

Sorry, those are clear positives...

How clear would you say? ‘Test again in a few days could go either way-clear’ or ‘clear, I would say congrats in a different situation’

With DD I had a chemical and an early miscarriage at 8 weeks. Lines were scary and joyous.

I just feel numb :(

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Angelselevenx · 29/09/2023 11:44

@VulpixTail how many days away would your expected period be? I'd also say those are positives as well x

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VulpixTail · 29/09/2023 11:46

Angelselevenx · 29/09/2023 11:44

@VulpixTail how many days away would your expected period be? I'd also say those are positives as well x

I don’t have periods.

I have a lot of hormonal breakthrough bleeding because of the pill. I don’t have a regular cycle.

I last had a bleed about 2-3 weeks ago.

I did a test last week and it was negative.

So it’s early. That’s something.

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Angelselevenx · 29/09/2023 11:50

@VulpixTail could you get a digital to give an indication of how many weeks you are?

WetBandits · 29/09/2023 11:52

Those are both positive OP, I’m sorry.

What do you want to do?

AlienSuperstar · 29/09/2023 11:59

I would say those are positive, I would do a digital to be sure

curliegirlie · 29/09/2023 12:04

Clear as day, I'm afraid, but obviously anything can happen in early pregnancy. I think I got similar lines with DD around when my period was due, so I'd guess you're around 4 weeks?

Ttcmumma · 29/09/2023 12:42

I'd say those are positive, no contraception is 100% effective and missing pills here and there will definitely lower the effectiveness of it further

curliegirlie · 29/09/2023 12:50

Yup, my surprise pregnancy last year (which became an early MC - I never got lines as dark as those, although they lingered for 3 weeks) was immediately following a couple of weeks of flakey pill taking.

bluebellsanddaisies23 · 29/09/2023 12:52

Sorry OP, I would say +ve as well x

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VulpixTail · 29/09/2023 13:26

WetBandits · 29/09/2023 11:52

Those are both positive OP, I’m sorry.

What do you want to do?

It’s so abstract because I know early pregnancy doesn’t guarantee a baby but if someone told me that these lines would mean a super close sibling and friend that enhances my existing child’s life- I’d be a bit more positive (but obviously apprehensive of getting to that point). But there is no guarantee of situation.

Unfortunately though there are lots of reasons why I don’t want another baby. Not financial. We are very well set up to have multiple kids- I just want to prioritise my own career, mental health, marriage and existing child over people who don’t exist yet.

I can’t tell DH. I’m worried he’ll be happy.

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VulpixTail · 29/09/2023 13:29

AlienSuperstar · 29/09/2023 11:59

I would say those are positive, I would do a digital to be sure

I could- but I imagine it’s very very early due to line strength.

I just want to give it a few days. I might start bleeding.

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Jessforless · 29/09/2023 13:30

I think you should get a digital test too and take it from there.

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VulpixTail · 29/09/2023 15:33

VulpixTail · 29/09/2023 13:29

I could- but I imagine it’s very very early due to line strength.

I just want to give it a few days. I might start bleeding.

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Scratch that- currently queuing up for a digital. If is this is solid confirmation, I can then think and plan.

I don’t have anyone to speak to in real life :( I don’t think I’ll even tell DH.

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VulpixTail · 29/09/2023 15:46

Pregnant 1-2.

Early as I thought. Need to sit on this for a few days. Who do I call BPAS or my GP?

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Angelselevenx · 29/09/2023 15:49

@VulpixTail I've been there hun. I called BPAS and arranged it all through them, I think there is a contact form online albeit this was a few years ago I had to do it. Sending you best wishes. Hope you're okay

ChickaboomZoom · 29/09/2023 16:04

@VulpixTail I’m sorry - I know it’s hard. Been there. BPAS were very lovely. In my case when I went for the initial scan, however, it revealed that there was no embryo, just a sac. I miscarried naturally a few days later.

Having said that, we are now TTC since having that MC dredged up emotions I didn’t realise were there. I’ve had a further 2 losses since then (April)…

Life really throws us curveballs doesn’t it?
Hope you’ll be ok x

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VulpixTail · 29/09/2023 16:15

ChickaboomZoom · 29/09/2023 16:04

@VulpixTail I’m sorry - I know it’s hard. Been there. BPAS were very lovely. In my case when I went for the initial scan, however, it revealed that there was no embryo, just a sac. I miscarried naturally a few days later.

Having said that, we are now TTC since having that MC dredged up emotions I didn’t realise were there. I’ve had a further 2 losses since then (April)…

Life really throws us curveballs doesn’t it?
Hope you’ll be ok x

I’m so sorry to hear about what you have been through. TTC is absolutely rough even without that trauma.

I know that a healthy pregnancy is a huge blessing. I am worried that maybe one day I will change my mind, and it never happens again.

But as it stands, I only want to mother one child.

If I tell DH I think he will want me to continue the pregnancy. I am very close to my mum and she is actually a midwife (!) but she also has been pressuring me to start trying for a second.

I’d feel guilty talking to friends and worried it would all come out years later.

But I’m only 4-5 weeks and have lots of time, I hope.

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VulpixTail · 29/09/2023 16:15

Angelselevenx · 29/09/2023 15:49

@VulpixTail I've been there hun. I called BPAS and arranged it all through them, I think there is a contact form online albeit this was a few years ago I had to do it. Sending you best wishes. Hope you're okay

Thank you, I’ll take a look. X

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bluebellsanddaisies23 · 03/10/2023 12:20

How are you doing OP? x

99Please · 10/10/2023 00:10

What did you decide in the end OP?

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