Mentally trained

[Bobbyblue41]

Hi all,

just hear to have a moan. I can’t believe how this fertility journey is effecting my mental health. It’s awful! To the point I’m now worrying it’s actually contributing to my problems. I have up and down days to the point at least once per month, normally around testing time I say to myself that’s it ! Not doing this shit any more and I will never be pregnant again. Cry for days, cry again when my period starts. I then perk up for a few days around ovulation trying to hold onto a little bit of hope that this month could be the month. It’s a vicious circle every month.

id like to say I wouldn’t want anyone else to feel like this but selfishly I do because I know I’m not alone 😢 I prey there light at the end for us all xxxx

It is very hard, the symptoms spotting is the worst because you can say with the best of intentions that you won't .... but you will without realising 🫣 And agree when AF hits emotions are high anyway

How long have you been TTC for?

The truth is that all the professionals I've met advise against testing before being 1 week late (and even ovulation tracking) and only say DTD 2-3 times a week.

Even though this forum is very supportive, it's so nice to feel that your worries are shared with others, I think it might be driving us all a bit too much into it, like a light obsession (at least I personally feel that).
I would also say that this obsession can be a bit alienating from my husband, which doesn't help.

Maybe it'll be good to share things that we do to take our minds off TTC... I used to sew a bit, and I'm doing a little bit more lately, I think it helps.

I'd definitely say don't test early! It doesn't change any outcomes and can add to stress, it's best to wait until the day after your period is due at the earliest (plus you'll save money 😂).

I've been trying to get to the gym more and walk more as I love both those things, get back into baking, seeing friends and generally keeping my mind occupied. I've also lessened my time spent on these boards. Like @Nina7 said it can get a bit obsessive and that's not good.

My journey (with some enforced gaps!) has been about 7 years from the first time I tried to get pregnant with my ex and I've had 2 MMCs and no kids! So not obsessing is realllllllly important to me otherwise I'd be missing out on life x